We all get jealous or even competitive at times..let’s face it..we are human and it’s a part of our nature but one needs to know our balance and make sure it does not affect others. Let em start..I get quite jealous when people are easily able to make friends.Even until now I am not sure if I am an introvert or incapable of making good friends.I need a lot of space and friendship with boundaries lol. I get jealous when I see rude,arrogant and even hyper sensitive people are able to manage and make friends.I don’t know why I have a huge mental block in forming new relationships.It scares the hell out of me and makes me super uneasy.Even when I try it ends up in disaster. I wish I could change that aspect of me.However good news is I don’t wish them ill and I tell myself that we are all differently mentally wired and it’s okay. Just a fun(?) thread..what makes you jealous and are you able to control it ? Some make snide remarks and hurt others.I have made some in my past and absolutely not proud of it and kind of made it up by later appreciating them for their pluses. How do you handle it? A self awareness test
I am jealous at anyone who is slim.... Anyone But, it makes me super jealous when I see someone lose weight or maintain shape without even trying. When I see what they eat and how lazy their life style is, then the devil in me come out and make me feel jealous at them. Here I am on a constant journey to lose weight with strict diet, exercise and what not. But I hardly lose, or gain everything back in no time. I am not overweight or obese, but the cost to maintain my shape is getting too much. How sad! But, thank God... I don't wish them ill... I only pray to God that if he can't make me slim, them make everyone around me fat. My prayer worked. With age, most of my friends are now becoming fat, and giving me great partnership
The last line was funny you are lucky to be in a healthy weight though.Not everyone can be that after a certain age.
I once came across the word "enmire" which comes from joining envy + admire. : ) If the person has achieved something by hard work and discipline, the admire is more than the envy. : ) If they got lucky, the envy is higher. : ) Examples - friends who have a good dress sense, look more well-groomed. I envy them. How do I handle it? It is quite easy actually. I know some of the problems these folks deal with, so it all evens out. And I know things that they envy about me. : )
I initially feel jealous of people who are blessed with something that they did not have to work for or can control. such as good looks, family wealth, good support system, gifted skills or talents ..but eventually I celebrate them as I know I cant really compare as these things are not in one's control really. For things people achieve through their hardwork, preserverance, attitude etc.. the qualities we can cultivate and persist over a period of time to bring out the desired output, I envy them for being able to be or achieve those things and they inspire me to find my own strengths and work on them. I swing between these feelings and sometimes beat myself up but I imbibed the mantra - Comparision is the theif of joy from quite a long time to keep me at peace.
I appreciate you all to be open about how you feel.It also helps in a way to correct ourselves and how to balance out emotions.It takes guts to accept what we are. Keep going ladies!