How is it to be married to an 'INDIAN NAVY' officer?

Dear Phalguni,

Since the prospective guy does not have off-shore assignments, it makes things easy and much better.

However, the service-officers' life is a bit different from the other ones'... In one hand they are supposed to be very disciplined, as these things are taught to them in their grooming up phases. But at the same time, given the nature of their real duties (actually the service forces are meant for security of the country, is not it?) , they are avenues of the ways of refreshments, like frequent partying, which boozing etc. (though it completely depends on an individual how he handles it. I have seen quite a few very generous service officers). To my opinion this is borrowed from western culture and one who does not have enough exposure, needs some time to get along.

Also the service officers enjoy a lot of things, like getting ration, helping hands/servants at home so on and so forth depending on their ranks. These makes living easy, but have all the scope to make one (unnecessarily) egoistic. I am not disheartening you here, but stating the facts. I work for a defence (civil) organisation, where I come across these persons quite often.

It all depends on the background and adaptability of the girl whether she is comfortable with such an environment and get along quickly.

But above all it depends on the guy, how he is and his outlook towards life.

Good luck

 

a point that came to my mind having many cousins & other family members serve in the navy is the constant transfers that are part of the life in the early days.. so a bit depends on what your relative wants from her professional life. Cousins whose spouses are working are in the educational field, so the trasfers dont affect that much and they usually get a job in the new place.. but i am not sure how this lifestyle would affect a person with a different career, like IT, bank, govt job etc.

 

My Buaji was married to an army officer. He is retired as a colonel..If you are not working then its a really good life. They have nice quarters and a very friendly environement.

Transfer is something but there is no need to worry about it since everything is taken care of even before one moves out. I have always admired my fufaji for his great habit and his good health.
If the family is good then I think its a nice arrangement.

 

My BIL is in Indian Navy. They do have social gatherings like weekly clubs or new year bash and stuff. But socializing at home is completely their choice.

You mentioned that the guy is a Lt. Cmdr so based upon the seniority he will become Cmdr. However, to move further up the ladder, his work and a little bit of socializing will help. Some of my BIL's friends are more partying kinds while some are more family oriented. So it all depends, as a couple what are their priorities?

Also, depending upon the dept. there are times when the officers have to sail for few months at a stretch. My sis understands the nature of BIL's job and she is fine with it.

And also as Lotusgirl has mentioned, transfers are a frequent part of their life. But it doesnt necessarily mean that its bad. It depends if the girl in question is working, if she will be willing to sit at home when they get transferred to a smaller base. At such places, the women are quite active and they have their own clubs which conduct educational and fun activities for children, husbands and families in general to keep themselves busy.

So basically its more imp. that your family friend's daughter and the guy in question share the same values and opinion about the expected lifestyle. And like, in any other marriage their compatibility and understanding will go a long way for a successful marriage rather than just the profession of the guy.

 

Heard that Key-Parties are common.

 

hello,
i just want to know that i read somewhere in Indian navy you have to please senior officer's wives.you have to dance and sing for them.is it true?

please tell me.i'm about to marry a naval officer.and after reading that i was really nervous.it was written that you have to attend all the parties?isn't it wrong?

waiting for your reply....

 

u ask him directly rather than repenting later