How girl-friends can help your marriage

Rihana · Jun 13, 2015

Laks09 said: ↑

Unfortunately those early years we had only common friends. We turned to each other to complain about each other.
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I was smiling to read 'turned to each other' next to 'to complain about each other'

I think for some things at least, it may not be a bad idea to complain to each other only.

Kay · Jun 13, 2015

I am many female friends but I stick very close to my best friend because she like a sister to me and my confidant. Making new friends in IL will be an honour.

anika987 · Jun 13, 2015

I think I am a good friend.one of my friends got into a divorce and has been very supportive of her.Also, she has other problems and she always relies on me for advice and help.I also do not support her mistakes blindly.tell her openly but do not hurt her.i also compliment her from my heart for her achievements or even little things but I do not simply compliment just for the heck of it.

We are Also more of family friends.i love her dd and always buy lot of things when I come down to India for her.

i also understand the concept of personal space.though she is my bestie,I give her required space.

JustLikeYou · Jun 25, 2015

I have a bestie...We have known each other right after we got out of collegue for our new jobs. We have have seen each other daily and been roommates for 6 months...but we continued to nurture our friendship....
I know as a matter of fact she keeps me sane...When I was going through the rock bottom, but for her I would have ended up mad....She provides me the angle that i miss....
She shares her load of IL issues with me....She mostly vent it out to me because it't not easy for her to share it anywhere else...

We share pretty much everything...we have seen each other just twice in the past 8 years for half day or so....still we know what we did last weekend...
I have only one and that one is a gem....

HinaSahil · Jul 3, 2015

Rihana said: ↑

Ladies, do you have a friend or two who tell you like it is? Whom you can depend on for honest opinion? One you can turn to for advice or opinion and who will help without judging and unnecessary sympathizing? She will try to suggest a middle path, or will make you realize that things are not as bad as they seem?

She will let you vent without adding too much fuel to the venting fire inside you? Will forget about the situation when it is hazy in your mind too?

Well, if one girl-friend had all these qualities, you might as well marry her. :coffee

As part of the Building Positivity in Married Life forum, starting a thread on the importance of forming, maintaining and nurturing such female-friends.

I think having one or two good, sensible, level-headed female friends helps. Need not be local. Most heart-to-heart chats tend to happen over phone.

Do you have a friend like this? Local, remote, in IL?
Maybe one such friend one time helped you get over a rough patch in married life?

Maybe you are that kind of friend to someone?
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My friend is very supportive to me during marriage, she is my mentor, she taught me many things, which my life has good start after marriage from the day one.

heron · Jul 21, 2015

Ok, i have been a happy loner most of the time, running in the woods and patting animals. Well, last year a thunder struck and I felt a need to have someone who can talk back to me.... I started looking and I found a man ( sigh)... I thought i almost had it, so close but the intentions werent same on both sides. It ended painfully after 3 months. But... I found a girl now!!! yippie!... we are so similar and I am glad I have her now. All of it only made my feminist itch itcher... girls ROCK * hand horn*

If same sex marriage was just as accepted... i think girls would just go out with girls all the time... atleast i would