Ladies, do you have a friend or two who tell you like it is? Whom you can depend on for honest opinion? One you can turn to for advice or opinion and who will help without judging and unnecessary sympathizing? She will try to suggest a middle path, or will make you realize that things are not as bad as they seem? She will let you vent without adding too much fuel to the venting fire inside you? Will forget about the situation when it is hazy in your mind too? Well, if one girl-friend had all these qualities, you might as well marry her. :coffee As part of the Building Positivity in Married Life forum, starting a thread on the importance of forming, maintaining and nurturing such female-friends. I think having one or two good, sensible, level-headed female friends helps. Need not be local. Most heart-to-heart chats tend to happen over phone. Do you have a friend like this? Local, remote, in IL? Maybe one such friend one time helped you get over a rough patch in married life? Maybe you are that kind of friend to someone?