How Do You Face Criticism Of Being Called Unlucky

mangaii · Feb 8, 2022

Minion said: ↑

On a lighter note I am reminded of the Tamil comedy by vadivelu

Evlo adichalum thaanguran ivan romba nallavan
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mangaii · Feb 8, 2022

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@mangaii - You are not at fault for trusting someone. All of us have learned hard lessons. Some very costly ones. Chalk it up to a life lesson and try to hold on. Hopefully your DH will be able to retrieve your jewelry.

You know there is no ill luck involved here. It’s just another form of manipulation. Now that the flow of money is ebbing, she’s punishing the person who she thinks is responsible for it with her words. Don’t let her words impact you. If you go into negative self talk, replace that with positive things for yourself. Trusting someone isn’t a weakness. It shows you cared enough. Tell yourself that.

Your DH is on your side and that is probably triggering some of the verbal assaults too. Think of it as her jealousy and inability to control her brother. This may help you with your own self esteem.

Good luck!
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Thanks Laks Just waiting for summer break. Will probably take a parachute to jump off airplane to police station directly. Have to give it to her for running this show for so long without any doubts.

mangaii · Feb 8, 2022

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Yes you can prove it, you have your wedding pictures right, use that as an evidence, start with your DH tell him that it’s his responsibility to send a message to his sister, make it clear that you will take legal action (even if you don’t, say it) against your SIL, that should send her a message that you will not keep quiet anymore and her tricks will not work with you anymore. Don’t you have siblings or close relatives? Take help from them and there is no use to save a relationship like this, just get your stuff from her and then think about having a relationship with her.
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My siblings live in different state and none of them want to get involved. They all have family on their own so I'm not going to blame them. But my mom is different level all together. She told me to work harder like Rajini in Annamalai and become richer than her. Perks of watching too many movies in lock down. She doesn't want anyone to complain about her. I wish I can get 10 cows and become millionaire overnight. Now I have learnt to laugh at the situation. Even if all her accusations are true I cannot go and sit on Himalayas to change my luck or whatever that is.

Minion · Feb 8, 2022

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But my mom is different level all together. She told me to work harder like Rajini in Annamalai and become richer than her. Perks of watching too many movies in lock down. She doesn't want anyone to complain about her. I wish I can get 10 cows and become millionaire overnight. Now I have learnt to laugh at the situation
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Your mom is a sweet Hamam soap mom

Amica · Feb 8, 2022

She values cash and jewelry more than a relationship with her brother. I don't think your DH will succeed in getting your stuff back. Since you have accepted that this relationship is over, you are in a better position. You'll have to step in and handle her yourself.

IIRC, your nephew stole cash from an account that was in your DH's name. You can prove this. The law is on your side. Demand all of your stuff back with the threat of pressing charges against your nephew for theft.

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She is using jewel as a pawn to get what she wants.
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What does she really want?

Your SiL is nasty. Fight back, @mangaii. You deserve better treatment than this.

mangaii · Jun 21, 2022

Updating this thread that I finally reached India . It is long time since I have felt this happy . I don’t think words can even describe how I feel now . I’m planning to visit my sil on Thursday. Keeping my fingers crossed that I can get back my jewels without going through legal hassle .

MalStrom · Jun 21, 2022

There’s no place like home.
Good luck with your SIL visit and hope you get your jewels back without fuss.

mangaii · Jun 24, 2022 at 1:13 AM

My Sil was ruthless, inhumane and most selfish human I have met in my life . After draining my energy whole day I don’t see any use in talking to her. She thinks she can do whatever she wants since I don’t have any proof that I have her jewels .
I’m meeting lawyer today and taking this up legally. I was under the impression that she will have some humanity left in her so she would return the jewels . I had plans to leave my native place . But after todays episode I have cancelled all my plans and will be camping at lawyers place and police station . I want to take some action against her. My blood is boiling .

1Sandhya · Jun 24, 2022 at 5:26 AM

Good luck @mangaii hope you are able to come to a resolution.
Do you have photographs of you wearing the jewels? Surely there must be some. Your wedding time or younger days? That will be proof. Even if she shows pictures from her side your photos will predate those. So you can establish ownership. Also Using the pictures you can contact the jewelers from whom you purchased or got it made. Usually back in those days it would be family jeweler no? You can show them the photos and they will confirm for you that he made it for you/your family. It may take some searching and running around but it should be doable since you are already there. Just be careful the police wala doesn’t ask for bribe and all. I hear it’s all very corrupt these days. Well more N. India than South but be careful!

shravs3 · Jun 24, 2022 at 10:38 AM

Hopefully you get back all your jewels. @1Sandhya has already given good suggestions.
If any of your family members can provide witness that’s an added advantage.

Also do you have any message/email in which you are asking her to return it and you think its helpful for the case? Submit all those to the legal team.

I found something similar to your case. Hope you find it useful..
In-laws not returning my jewelleries