My husband used to save and send every penny to his family before marriage . After marriage we obviously had increase in expense of family, kids and education. My husband also went through period of unemployment. Since his family was also doing well he stopped this payment during pandemic. He usually shares his ups and down with his family. This has boiled down to only one thing with my SIL. She keeps saying all because of my bad luck. It is not once or twice it has been uttered so many times now I have only accepted that as truth. Recently in phone conversation she went on to say how my husband career graph went down after marrying me. How she improved her husband quality of life . I'm fed up of hearing this criticism . My husband told them this isn't true and he understands software field has ups and down. He conveyed that life is full of ups and downs and he cannot blame me for his career curve. But for some reason this comment keeps coming to my mind every time I do something. Now I have started to wonder myself maybe I'm unlucky. I'm just venting don't know why my mind keeps thinking about this sentence the minute I'm free. Any suggestions on how to overcome this negative thinking ?