How Do You Deal With This?

Yes. We speak about it openly, even about the little details like presentations, how it should flow etc to what he ate for a lunch meeting.

Yes. this alos. Since it is directly related to finacial matter of family, we discuss deeply about it. the area he is applying for, what kind of job matches the profile etc. This also helps me forward any job that I see during my internet search or sometimes I deliberately do it.

This too. Needs to know where is the limit. Like I will not push him for things he is not ready to do, if I say, I substantiate it with my reasons. If it ends up an argument we hug it out later when everything cools down.

Since it s only 20 days, I would suggest you to be patient. may be it is the frustration of not able to find any jobs of his liking yet or may be he thought he will find something faster, but it is not happening. It is a stressful time, so just be patient with him, he will come back to you. Distract yourself with your work or a hobby. Just assure him you are there when he wants to talk about it, but stay away for now.

 

Its natural to feel this way. What I understood from your post is that he is a responsible husband.
" He says me asking him is wrong and that he will let me know when he has made his decision."

Look like he is under stress. So any concern from you appear like nagging. With his colleagues he has to say something. That's why. Think in his way. He is asking you for space. Give him plenty and respect his request. No one value unwanted advice or suggestions. Help him only when he asks for it. Otherwise behave normal, focus on your life and career. Let him come to you. Dont overthink and spoil your happiness. Have lot of patience. Give him space and emotional support. Everything will be alright.

 

Hi..
The answer to your initial question is yes.. I am and have been involved in my husband's career life. And I try to understand everything that he does, I help in his job search and all the other things of career life.

Now reading your question it look like you have also been actively involved in his career life. He has asked you while putting down the papers because he thinks you are a important part of his life.
Now at this point he is not involving you in any decisions, so from what I think from the outside is, he has some guilt within him maybe and his responsibilities and decisions are in his face making him feel maybe he did the wrong thing..
And yes it is difficult to not involve in his life at this hardest point..but you need to give him the right amount of space.

Just have a casual talk with him..and maybe instead of asking him did you choose a job yet..maybe ask him indirectly..if you see him editing resume ask hey you need help with that.. or in searching new opening do you need me to do that still..

And in the current pandemic, it is very difficult to find jobs easily..maybe he expected it to be very easy but now it is not ..so cut him some slack..

And the only way you can bring his morale up is if you are able to relax.. always remember you will get through this bump..
Both of you sit down and remember all the difficult times you both have been under and came out of it and laugh it out..maybe it will be encouraging to him and you