How Did U Achieve?

I personally don't have experience in managing a toddler and studying. But let me suggest something.
Start noting down what Time you wake up till the time you sleep, what have you done through out the day, like a time table. Do this for a week sincerely. Mark the tasks like urgent, important, can be negotiated, can wait etc.
Calculate how you can save time by cutting out on some of these tasks. Eg, shop for veggies only once a week and provisions monthly. No running in between. Develop a daily routine that you stick to, no matter what.
As for your dh's food preferences, let it take a back seat for now. Give him something healthy, preferably hot. You need not cook any fancy meals for him. Similarly, buy a couple of crushes / juice mix and stock some snacks in the pantry to serve unexpected guests. If your dh keeps calling people without consulting you, let him also order food from outside. Stick to the snacks and don't venture into the kitchen making elaborate meals for the guests. He will slowly understand.
Keep searching for courses that will help you professionally, and slowly, once you fall into a pattern, you can enroll yourself.
As for being confident, it is something which we develop over time. Talk to positive people, have friends, try going for short walks with your baby, get pampered at a parlour, and most importantly keep telling yourself that a confident mother helps raise a confident child.
Finally ignore your dh if he throws a tantrum. Slowly he will learn to adjust and accommodate. The more you bend, the more he will try to dominate you.
Take care

 

What would happen if you told the husband this is what is cooked and he can either eat it or go eat at Saravana / Anand or any other bhavan? I assume he would throw a fit couple of times and then open a bottle of pickle and eat what’s cooked by you.
What happens if you decide to sit on the couch and chat with guests and not run around the kitchen being a good host? He might think twice before he invites guests over without asking you.
You need to fix this first before you get back to your career. And get back you must , to improve your confidence , self esteem and hold your own in the marriage. Take care!

 

check out this video, I found this really insightful.



time management is not about cramming things to be done in a shorter time . Its about prioritizing and allocating time to the task you want to do most to achieve a certain goal, not what you need to do most. So if you are looking for people to give you solutions how to cook a 5 course fresh meal , take care of a baby, manage all housework , entertain guests and still find time to study , then you are going to burn out fast, super fast. What you need to do is a list of things and prioritize them . Your list would/should probably have number one your baby, number 2 your certification, number 3 your daily meals and chores and number 4 uninvited guests . So for e.g., time left over after baby care and you studies should be used for housework and cooking. That means you clean house and cook maybe once in 2 days instead of everyday , agree to entertain guests only once a week and so on.

thats the only way you can work on your goals. fast forward 4 years like this, your husband is not going to give you an award for cooking to his whims and fancies , your friends and colleagues would have progressed even more , you are going to be really bitter. Instead if you work really hard on your goals, in 4 years you will have finished some decent certifications and find yourself a decent good job. so start right away , you can do this without your husbands support, but you can't do this by being a doormat .

 

For some reason this cracked me up!!

 

If your husband is not happy with your cooking ask him to cook by himself or eat whatever is cooked .Tell him it’s soooo easyyyyy to comment about food but very difficult to prepare it.

You can also tell him why can’t we exchange our roles since SAH is so easy in a humorous way .

Strictly tell him if from now on if any guests are invited frequently you can’t cook and instead ask him to get from restaurants .

And regarding cooking please join OPOS support group in Facebook . It’s really helpful . Your kitchen time is indeed reduced . You can have some me time so tat you can prepare for your career .