Warning: After writing, I feel this is more like a vent. Yearly, I host Thanksgiving or Christmas. we do not have any family here (in the US), but we have friends like family who visit us and stay for a few days. I love hosting them for 3-4 days in my house. I meticulously plan what to cook for them, how to entertain them. Cooking will be mostly me, while DH and others help in grocery shopping+prep+clean up. usually, DH do not have a say or doesn't like interfere in what i cook or plan to cook. Everyone likes to stay home, and relax. And we mostly cook and eat at home. This has been going on for the last 3 years. This year I planned the Christmas menu and discussed with DH and he asked me to cut down a lot of cooking and suggested a lot of other stuff which otherwise I would consider as ordinary cooking. I plan cooking specialty stuff when people visit and i enjoy very much doing it. This time his meddling surely hurt my ego. We had a heated discussion on what to include in the menu and what not, also some face offs, while doing grocery shopping. But we made up and included both of our interests. However, overall his opinion was I work a lot with cooking and people are not appreciating. I probed why and he said "see, when we visited them they made only so and so, we do not need to make all this grand feast etc." It sort of killed my enthusiasm and I am that kind of person who doesn't like to be compared. I could care less how everyone else did on the same test if I got what I wanted. So I really never paid attention if they appreciated all of my cooking. I feel like my Christmas spirit is gone.