Bravo, don't take me wrong you clearly, a super women to live with your husband inspite of all his flaws. His irresponsible nature should be addressed only by him, you would have given him 10000 times of your time explaining everything, still if he is like that, try to talk him thru someone whom he listens to or may be a friend. Still I wanted to know his side, I mean you're very clear in your actions and thoughts, what's that he is finding a problem with or why is he being so unstable and irresponsible what more can a woman do to her family. Unlike you he should all vent what's he really bothered about, his family wife kids or home or is anything else is worrying. Is he insecure or feeling inferior that you're Managing all deeds at home and work and he can't be like you.. Is that what is bothering him..