Friend....i am married 2.5months back . I have been going through some issues which i need help to deal with. My DH shows little initiative to get intimate. Will elaborate the problem from initial day....to help you all to understand the problem. On 1st night my husband didnot care to talk/gossip/touch me, even when i was wearing an exposing nightwear and we were given a good hotel room to put up that night...When i urged him to start some friendly talk , he replied that he never had a talk with any girl so he doesnot know how to behave and what to talk. He acted to be too innocent. No doubt later on after one month i came to know that he had erection seeing me in that sexy nighty but he disguised his sex-feeling that night. Like this he keeps on behaving at bed pretending he is a good man/ mamma's boy and doesnot know anything about sex. Sometimes I have noticed his pennis gets erect when i wear any sexy clothes but he pretends he doesnot feel anything. God knows how he can control himself. I feel bad when i realise his feeling when he meets any other sexy lady face to face. I tell you friends i have gone through worst experience which a wife cannot bear. It reflects that he has all the drive but he hides from me. But am trying to adjust thinking he is good and fare to me. While at home he tries to cooperate in household works. But hardly feels it necessary to behave frienly and share his general day to day feelings. He hides many things from me and tells lies over petty issues. He doesnot care to disclose his salary too. He hides if he gets any monetary rewards from office. He keeps on saying that his manager is forcing him to take night shift as soon as possible. it gives me the feeling that he doesnot want to stay with me long. He doesnot care even if we donot have sex for 2 weeks. (few days back it happened so). I keep on talking to him often explaining that its important for us to be friendly and to get intimate. His mantra is office, meals and sleep. He says he doesnot have any knowledge about all this. He says he gets headache and also feels tired mostly. When we get physical, i do most of the actions on his body. Then he would do it mechanically. I tried to google about these and study together to bring him interest. I asked to buy romantic/adult CDs to help us to learn. Always its me....who keeps on initiating. Even when we try to get intimate, his actions i feel mechanical (lacking his inner sex drive), so i donot enjoy. I talked to him on this too. But not much improvement is there. Some nights he would turn his back towards me and sleep like that for long hours, whereas i feel it bad to turn my back towards him while sleeping. It hurts me. Few days back on my urge, we went to honeymoon, throughout the trip, i tried to kiss him in the bus when no one is seeing us. But he keeps on saying me not to do as others might see us. But lastly when we were in the night bus (VOLVO)with curtains closed and luckily no one in adjacent seat, i expected him to act naughty. But to my expectation he kissed me once, took my hand in his hand and started to sleep within 15mins. I was blushed with anger when he didnot take advantage of darkness. After sometime he i removed my hand from his and it made him realise i was annoyed, though i acted to be normal. Then he didnot sleep and kept on looking outside the window at the road view. Not even he talked anything romantic. He spoiled my 3hours journey like this. This shows that he hardly cares to touch me and show his careness and affection towards me. All these makes me sleeples thinking why he is behaving like this. Even my parents could sense these gap he creates when they stayed in my house last month. My aunty came to visit me last week, she could realise the reality looking and judging my body structure (which improves incase of a newly married woman). Please help how to get him on track.