Hey Pals, so.. if any of you have read any of my previous threads, you can follow. If not here's a REALLY brief scenario. I have been married for over a year, we all live in US, my ILs live 2 hours away. I have BIL, Bhabhi (lives in our neighborhood), and SIL(lives with ILs).. None of my ILs like me.. leave me out.. rude.. etc. We all rarely talk and hardly meet. MIL is very jealous and dramatic with me. But, DH is usually on my side. Here is my problem this time. My bhabhi is having a baby shower next month. FIL called and asked me to help with the event. FIL always calls me out, even when company is around, and says that I should make more efforts to get the family together. I have made several efforts in the past and recently, but everyone says they are busy or MIL causes drama. This time, FIL wants me to help with shower, but my MIL, Bhabhi, SIL all have completely left me out. I invited bhabhi over, and asked her if she needs help.. she said everything was taken care of. I know this sounds minor, but I rather just "stay away" from all of this. I'm not wanted by them, and I feel very uncomfortable. Everytime the family gets together, I get stressed out. I tend to get left out and ignored... blamed for issues, etc... I was not expecting them to really involve me, but I don't like the pressure. It's like they expect me to help, but purposely do not involve me.. Usually my MIL and everyone will cause drama to humiliate me whether or not I help. I prefer to just stay civil and keep it minimal but respectful when doing family gatherings. I tried to talk to DH, but he said "let them do whatever they want. when our time comes we can do whatever we want" ..that's ok, but my issue is that I feel uncomfortable. Apart from the fact that I do not look forward to family events, I feel stressed and left out. FIL wants us to go few days early to help, but I don't want to go. DH told FIL that is not a problem and we will be there. Please help me get myself together. I don't know why this is all stressing me out so much. I'm just tired of being uncomfortable and left out.