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headshave.....

Discussion in 'General Discussions' started by priyankab, Jun 3, 2010.

headshave.....

Poll closed Jul 3, 2010.
  1. yes i should shave

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  2. no i should not shave

    57.1%
  3. can think once

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  4. can not must compulsory

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  5. should cut my hair half(waist length)

    14.3%
  6. should cut upto my shoulders

    14.3%
  7. should cut upto my neck

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  8. should cut in bob cut

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  9. should cut in boy cut

    14.3%
  10. should headshave

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  1. priyankab

    priyankab New IL'ite

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    i am priyankab i am new to this site i am college going girl my mother is forcing to shave my head at tirupathi as she vowed it seems what to do i am feared and refusing to do but she is forcing what to do in this month she is planning to go please anyone give me idea to stop or suggesions or encourage by sending their experiance or videos or photos so that i can convience.(even i have problem with lics this is one important thing for my headshave) please any one help me as iam joining in engneering and i have long waist length silky hair
     
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  2. priyankab

    priyankab New IL'ite

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    what to do any one suggest pleaseeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee
     
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  3. ganges

    ganges Gold IL'ite

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    dear
    it is up to you to decide. I heard some ladies who prayed to offer their hair, cut little bits from their hair and put in the hundi at thiruppathi.
    it depends upon how and why your mom prayed like this.


    ganges
     
  4. smart_soul

    smart_soul Bronze IL'ite

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    I agree with ganges Priyanka. It's a sensitive issue that too when you are entering college.

    If you have waist-length hair, can you offer as much length as possible? Will your mom agree to that? Not sure how the shaving thing as a prayer works, but in our family culture, women should not shave their hair unless widowed (that too in really old age only, not for youngsters). i know these rituals seem very complicated to even understand...
     
  5. mithy232

    mithy232 Silver IL'ite

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    Don't go for head shave. Instead do Angapradakshinam or any other ritual. Also ask your mom to stop praying for you.
     
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    rajalakshmigopal Gold IL'ite

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    You can cut half of the length or even shorter.This way you can satisfy your mom and your problem will also get solved.

    As mithy said,ask your mom to stop praying for you!
     
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    swarnalata.N.S. Platinum IL'ite

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    I don't think others can suggest anything because it is between you and your mother. You only have to think and decide what you want to do.
    Some people just cut a token piece for keeping promise to god.
     
  8. flowerlady

    flowerlady IL Hall of Fame

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    Your mom should have offered her own hair , not yours. She asked God for something , got it then she should do the needful.
    Did you offer your hair to God ?
    As friends suggest cut a bit only , if she insists tell her to do it instead , God will understand.
     
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    mstrue New IL'ite

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    K.. this might come as a shock or surprise.. but I have done it twice. I will be doing it one more time. I prayed on my own to offer for a family crisis.

    I did it wholeheartedly. Once I even attended an interview within few days after the offering. But I was confident and proud of myself. I got through the interview and bagged the job. :thumbsup

    Believe me, nobody looked at me strangely the second time, because I never felt strange in the first place. It is my head, my life, my belief, my decision and yes, my hair. :)

    External Beauty is skin deep. The real beauty lies in your inner self. I felt/feel the same with or without the hair.

    I am not here to say whether you have to do it or not and why/why not. It is your decision. No right or wrong either way. It is between you, your mom, your belief.. I am just bringing you another perspective.. how to deal with it if you end up doing it.

    So even if you do not believe in God or such offerings, if in case you end up doing the tonsure, hold your head high. It is something you did for your mother's sake as a token of your love to her. It is after all the hair which is going to grow in a matter of time. Why bother about the world?
     
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  10. priyankab

    priyankab New IL'ite

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    my mother is not agreeing with my words she is telling only headshave
     

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