Not sure which forum is relevant for this post. So posting here. Hello Ladies, While I am still confused over having IVF to have second child through frozen embryo transfer. I'm in US and I had first baby through IVF. Had C section. Had tough time with inlaws during post partum(stayed for 1 yr). Suffered from poor memory, joint aches, arthritis, abdominal pain due to weak muscles, depression which is not addressed. I felt really low with poor self esteem. After a year, went to India where I got time to rebuild my confidence, used some medication for the other issues. i will say I had very difficult post partum recovery which took me almost 1.5yrs. I just started leading a normal life. My son is 2.2 yrs and I am in mid 30s which is why I feel the rush from my family what it will be hard if i delay which I too agree. But I am nervous to go back and go through all of it again. With all the previous experience, I am pushing my husband that I want to have my second kid in India. Being C section, I don't see a reason why I should stay here and request for help(For first baby I thought I will have normal if I have in US. I know I am dumb). My mom says, it will be easy for her to take care in India as they can hire domestic help. I know I am thinking too much as there are so many things with IVF. But if everything goes well, I want to go to India, have a baby and come back once the baby is 1.5yrs or so. Is my thinking right? My husband says I will be depriving the baby of the benefits of being a US citizen. I don't see it as a big deal as lot might change by the time they grow up. My DH might need to stay alone for a while. But I feel its ok if I weigh pros and cons.