I have. 1. When I was newly married I tried helping mother in law in the kitchen. I washed all the dishes and put them in their place. She got angry and rearranged everything the way she likes. 2. Made nice food that FIL liked. I don’t know how…but MILs feelings were hurt and she told guests who came…yeah the other day she made this dish and her father in law thought ohh what’s this how will I eat it and ate it to make her happy. 3. Every time I went out with my husband for appointments to dentist or doctors…she would have a long face and once gave us the silent treatment even though it was her own son getting his teeth fixed! FIL would rarely let us go out after she had a word with him and then one day she said no let them go and have ‘fun’. Actually was told once that ‘our son takes you to so many places’. Also realised that MIL used to go through my stuff when I went ‘out’. what about you and how did you deal with it?