Has the essence of marriage lost in today's scenario?

pls share the flimsy excuses.

 

Yes, please do. I'd very much like to hear the flimsy excuses'.

 

Same here.

 

Seems to me it is not divorce that is the problem, but family pressure to re-marry IMMEDIATELY after divorce that may leave some confused and emotionally fragile people lurching from one disastrous marriage into another.

Perhaps it's time we re-examined the concept of marriage (especially arranged marriage in the above scenario). Marriage should not be about simply matching up and putting up with someone for a lifetime. Without genuine love, mutual respect, common goals and values, and a willingness from BOTH parties to do what it takes to make a happy life together, any relationship is a sham.

I'd rather be a divorcée than a desperately, unhappily married woman.

 

I predict many more marriages will succeed the day "lakhs" are spent on more important things, like down payment on first house, than on dowry or extravagant weddings. A wedding leaves us with memories, some expensive outfits, and a video/photo album. A more substantial investment would and should be in something that gives the new couple tangible benefits for years to come.

Also, it would be nice if kids started paying for their own weddings, which might leave parents with more money for their living expenses and retirement, which might take the heat off the kids some (eg. potential reduction in MIL/DIL drama and mama's boy syndrome, since parents are not relying totally on kids to provide for them).

 

Yes, I would say the concept of what is a good marriage and the level of tolerance has definitely changed. I wouldn't, say any girl will break her marriage for flimsy reasons - but, where earlier a marriage was considered for life, in recent times girls feel it is better to start afresh if they could get out of an abusive relationship. Whether this a good or bad step Is debatable - but the fact is we are going to see much more of this in future. Girls are brought up to be independent in their views, are made financially independent thro jobs etc, this is a good thing. But, this independence and forward thinking has led in many cases to intolerance to accept another's way of life, adjusting to different family situations if it is not how they were accustomed to etc. THIS, as we see in so many threads is the reason for fights, cold wars, back biting etc in many homes. Over the years , the expectations of parents also would or rather should be to accept what is happening in society. As you sow, so you reap, whether for good or bad

 

I am pretty sure this new attitude of independent women will only lead to better things and a better society. Women will become less tolerant of abuse and the families of son's will stop considering themselves a God's gift to man kind. I have not seen a single 'happy' family broken by divorce.Contrary to the OP 's post....we will see more real marriages between man and women and not arrangement forced to live out their lives for the sake of society.

 

Really? And did they get a divorce? Which court in this country allows divorce on such grounds?India is still not an easy country to get a divorce even in cases where divorce should be a natural course of things. Please don't make up silly cases and insult the many abused women who have gone through this in this very forum..

If indeed it is true...please provide some proof.