I am in one of the most difficult times of my life and I am writing to seek some advice. I am married for 4 years and have a 2 year old child and live in UK. After my daughter was born, I started noticing my husband was less interested in me and more on the Internet. After some investigation on his credit card stmt etc, I realized with horror that he had been going out for sex. It was the toughest time for me especially with the baby. I confronted him. First he pretended like he does not know anything. But after he knew for sure that I knew, he turned into apologetic mode, he apologized heavily and promised never to do it again. I cried for days, he always consoled me that it will never happen again. Description of him: Before I knew about this problem, I thought I had the best family. My hubby is a very good guy, he loves the child so much, takes care of her a lot, all sleepless nights he was more awake with the baby more than me. He helps around the house and we get along so well too. Me: arranged marriage. My parents are very religious people and getting old. In fact, they are one of the reasons I decided to stick to this marriage. When I told them about it and wanted a divorce, they suffered a lot mentally. When everyone told me to get a divorce, they told me to forgive and stick on to the marriage and to gather the power to change him. They feared that if I divorced, I will be alone with the child in this world and my life will become miserable. Both my parents have high Blood pressure etc. I fear for their health if I do something drastic. Divorce is not even heard of in our families. My parents are my life, as a single child, they brought me up with so much love and affection, I in fact live for them. Even though they live in India, we talk every single day and not one day they can sleep without hearing from me. After a year, I happened to look again at hubbys credit cards, and found history repeating itself. He was on the internet inviting people for sex. He was using fake email ids and had actually gone out again with 2 or 3 people. I was so devastated and wanted to leave the marriage instantly. Once again, he begged and pleaded and promised me that it wont happen again. He loved our daughter so much that he will end his life if he can’t live with her. In the middle of the night, he ran out saying he was going to die. I had no choice except to accept his apology and forgive. Also I thought of my parents and their status in the society. If I took a divorce, everyone will mock and make fun of my parents. So I did not tell them this time around and silently forgave everything. I thought our lives were perfect once again, and once, just happened to check his bank stmts (for no reason) and found it was happening once again. Except that this time, he was using cash, so it took me a long time to figure it out. He has been so dishonest with me, I feel so terrible and sick. I don’t know what to do with my life anymore. I did not confront him yet, since I don’t have a plan of action after confronting. If I did not have a child or such close parents, I feel I would have ended my life. Most people will say I should get out of this marriage asap. But our Indian background is so different. First of all, I do love this man still. It seems so weird but I don’t know why this is so.. maybe the only man I have known so closely other than father. Tears come to my eyes when I think of leaving. He says he loves me too a lot, but has this weakness. I have to think of all the people I love – my child, my parents – it is in their all best interest for me to stay. No one in the world will love my child like my husband does. My child is so happy when he is with both of us. If my parents health deteriorated if I made a drastic step, I will repent it for my life. Please post your suggestions based on being an Indian and being aware of our family values. I do have a temp job, so don’t have much problem financially at present to move out. But my visa expires in another year. And I don’t have any emotional support and that is something I really need. I don’t have much mental courage and feel I will break apart very fast. Can I ever hope that my husband will change and put on with his or should I leave for my own selfish reasons? I will not respond in few days since I do not want to use home pc.