1. Have an Interesting Snippet to Share : Click Here
    Dismiss Notice

Happiest Moment Of My Life Right Now

Discussion in 'Snippets of Life (Non-Fiction)' started by gamma50g, Nov 1, 2025.

  1. Thyagarajan

    Thyagarajan IL Hall of Fame

    Messages:
    13,111
    Likes Received:
    13,702
    Trophy Points:
    645
    Gender:
    Male
    Indeed. Sometime During puberty the voice cracks for both boy and girl. For some it is totally diffetent discernible even from distance. Effeminate voice of boys switch to stentorian and for girls it can change from meliflous to louder and noisy.
    Sometimes for couple too it happens. Her vpice sweet music like in the first year of wedlock. Afterfew years hubby has no voice while hers switch to higher pitch. Hush hush voice with passage of time becomes bold and more beautiful and disastrous!
     
    HariLakhera likes this.
  2. gamma50g

    gamma50g Platinum IL'ite

    Messages:
    818
    Likes Received:
    1,052
    Trophy Points:
    263
    Gender:
    Female
    I agree. I have a video of my daughter talking when she was 3 and shes 12 now. I cannot believe the difference!!

    These precious moments slip away too fast like sand slipping through the fingers
     
    Thyagarajan and HariLakhera like this.
  3. Thyagarajan

    Thyagarajan IL Hall of Fame

    Messages:
    13,111
    Likes Received:
    13,702
    Trophy Points:
    645
    Gender:
    Male
    My black & white of almost as old as I am looks wonderful to my boy and daughter and spouse too even today. Here is that photo in
    link:
    A phenomenon | Indusladies
    Do I look appealing to the readers and followers here?
     
    HariLakhera likes this.
  4. Viswamitra

    Viswamitra IL Hall of Fame

    Messages:
    13,910
    Likes Received:
    24,899
    Trophy Points:
    538
    Gender:
    Male
    @gamma50g,

    Rihana is right. Document the room settings and your time with your son now when you can. It is true the boys when they have a strong impression about their time with mom, it gets etched in their memories and they try to express and reciprocate when they grow up because their life as children is so simple surrounded by people they know well. It is time to relish the bond between mother and son. The trouble starts for them only when they meet their better half and her opinion that he is a momma's boy. To a certain extent, the mom has to explain the importance of the relationship with the spouse as the boys grow up. Besides the emotional detachment (I am not referring to love for the adult child) with the boys should happen through natural progression by letting him feel that he is an adult (after he grows up) and should be capable of taking decisions of his own. Particularly, it is important to teach him that he should be able to discuss the issues with his spouse to resolve rather than involving the parents or anyone else for that purpose. Mothers should encourage the son to discuss issues only in his wife's presence, if necessary. Mothers have to understand the difference between possessiveness (arising mostly because of living in the past memories instead of understanding the present moment) for their adult son vs love for the adult son.

    I am not referring to any one family or any one in particular. I feel, being an extremely spiritually evolved individual, you would know the best how to handle it. I am saying this for the benefit of all the members here including both men and women. I am 72 years old but half of my relatives think I am momma's boy while the other half thinks I am henpecked husband acting only on command of my wife (the term they use casually).

    I personally feel I am neither.
     
    gamma50g, Thyagarajan and Rihana like this.
  5. gamma50g

    gamma50g Platinum IL'ite

    Messages:
    818
    Likes Received:
    1,052
    Trophy Points:
    263
    Gender:
    Female
    You hit the nail on the head @Viswamitra sir. This is the exact reason why i wrote down my thoughts in a flow. I can already see the slightly reduced hugs, kisses and cuddles :disappointed:.

    So many mothers love their sons even after they grow up to the extent that the line between love and possessiveness becomes blurred and hence becomes a root cause of marital issues between a husband and wife. After a son gets married, his wife would always come first. I am hyperaware of that fact and so I tend to shower extra love on mine now itself :grinning:. I wouldnt cease to love him after marriage but it will come with detatchment. If he needs me ever in his life, I am there for him and his wife. But I would never offer him unsolicited advice or meddle in his affairs. He is an independent person eventhough he is my child. Like Swami says, We are servants appointed by Gods to tend to little souls that are born in our household just like how gardeners tend to plants in the garden of the master.

    My only prayer every day is to make me live independently till my last breath (I know thats not in my hands) so that I dont have to depend on anyone for anything , including my kids. I dont want to be a burden to anyone in my sunset years. Hopefully God will grant me that one wish.
     
    Thyagarajan and Viswamitra like this.
  6. Viswamitra

    Viswamitra IL Hall of Fame

    Messages:
    13,910
    Likes Received:
    24,899
    Trophy Points:
    538
    Gender:
    Male
    @gamma50g,

    I have no doubt you would lead an examplary life ahead and if at all anyone who knows how to deal with an adult son, it is you.

    I enjoy reading the following lines of your response that articulates so well what each mother must do:

    Your prayers not to be a dependent during sunset days is fair and unreasonable and I am positive Swami will grant you that.

    I also liked your following line:

     
    Thyagarajan and gamma50g like this.

Share This Page