Handling my in-laws

slgayatri · Apr 11, 2007

Re: Hello All - Great work!

Sadhana
just read ur post..
Its great... U've come to the correct place...
Here every one will give u suggestions on every situation...like Chithraji will guide u on recipes, Krishnamma will give all latest info on food, dresses, jewellery, etc....:2thumbsup:
So u can ask whatever u want...
Once again, hearty welcome to this wonderful site...:-D

Gayathri.:wave

Malathijagan · Apr 19, 2007

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Hello Sadhana,
That was a beautiful poem.It is very true that 95% of women only need to be assured of love as many times as possible.It is also very true that "A loving word would make her day". She asks for no more.If men could only understand this simple thing how wonderful life would become!

sadhana said: ↑

Hi Krishnaamma, BC and Sudha,

Thanks for the suggestions. I think I will badly need then as time progresses...

One nice poem on women which I wuld like to share with u all...
Can be sent to husbands on gloomy days...

A woman needs to be assured
In each and every way,
She needs the warmth of loving words
That only you can say.

She needs a lot of understanding …
When she's feeling somewhat down.
She needs for you to make her smile,
And take away her frown.

A woman's heart is fragile
Her feelings are that way too,
Times she feels so sad inside,
Not knowing what to do.

It's hard to be a woman,
Misunderstood in many ways,
Sometimes all it takes to help,
Is a loving word, to make her day.

She needs to know that she's the one,
That fills your heart with desire,
She needs to be told often,
That she sets your soul on fire.

She needs that soft and tender touch
As if she were a fragile rose,
And feel that she's so special.
From all others, you could have chose.

She needs to hear, "I Love you",
Whether close or miles apart,
She needs to know… she's the one,
That's the center of your heart.

So, please listen when I need to talk,
Please kiss away my tears,
Let me share my worries with you,
And help me face my fears.
Click to expand...

vidhujagan · Apr 23, 2007

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Hai dear friends,

My name is Vidya.I have been a silent reader in IL for quite a long time.I thought it will be great if i send to my hubby this poem and see his reaction.So i pinged him in MSN when he had set his status to away .Im just pasting here our conversation after that...........

Jegan says:
hi
Vidya Jagan says:
hi
Jegan says:
i read the poem, very good one
Jegan says:
revealing your inner hearts
Vidya Jagan says:
yes
Jegan says:
looks like it is written for you specially
Jegan says:
i can feel ur expectations through this poem dear
Jegan says:
but sometimes it need some kind of control
Jegan says:

Hope I didnt bore u

Vidya

eandian · Feb 20, 2011

Inlaws

Dear Ladies,
Mil problems started for me when she visited usa and found out that i was happily married. Did the usual stuff of bad mouthing me / playing politics etc etc. However since husband was good to me, I was happy and ignored them and tried to build a happy home.

MILs every conversation will directly or indirectly be about me (of course nothing good). I could not give a tit for tat to a old lady and that too a drama queen.

Recently we found out that my BIL and his wife have instigated mil. I have to add here. He was a very good husband. The best I have seen. But will never ever correct mom or stand up for me.

But on valentines day, I was hurt when he repeated some of his mom's words. I am tired too tired of this and wanted divorce.
Well MIL is all joyful about the turn of events and I over heard her telling him to settle me off and come back to her. BIL too because he will get the full inheritance as brother will be busy with divorce.

Liveandletlive · Feb 20, 2011

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oh dear, it's really heartbreaking to read all your story.

Be clever and turn your Dh towards you.If you try you can definitely do that and your MIL should realize that she can't do anything further to spoil your peace.And that will be a great lesson for her.

billybob · Feb 20, 2011

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Again I can never understand some MILs psychology, very possessive and love their sons (fatal love) but don't realize that they are destroying their sons life.

incarnation · Feb 20, 2011

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Best thing - cut all ties with her ..Tell your hubby not to invite her for a yr or so to US...Things will ease up

ArchanaP · Feb 20, 2011

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You have done a good thing. Analyzed your situation very well and stood up for yourself.

billybob · Feb 20, 2011

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Are you living in India or USA? if you are in US why are you taking all this crap? If you are in India is your green card still active?

flowerlady · Feb 20, 2011

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Please get a hold of yourself , if DH wants a divorce then he will have to shell out alimony and maintenance for you and kid and provide a home .
If things improve then please be more vigilant and not so trusting. Also no weeping and showing your weaker side.
Try to get the help of your siblings even if they are abroad , you will not feel alone and vulnerable.
Anyhow brush up your skills , education and take up a job . It will give you security and confidence.