Very true. Some people will still explicitly ask how much the bride’s parents plan to give, or state a list of demands. Many in my community consider themselves too polished to ask for dowry outright. Instead they will present it as “don’t you want your daughter to enjoy a certain standard of living”? Yeah right, we do. Just not with your family. My grandfathers were relatively timid gentlemen but both my grandmothers had a ferocious nose for nonsense like this and there are legends of several scenes they had caused during wedding discussions when demands arose.