Golden Rules for every woman

hi shanthi,
that was a excellent note and heart warming !

when i went thru some real bad moments of my marriage, i guess i didnt have many friends to look up to . and i used to carry a small gods photo in my purse and always touch it or maybe cry to it at worst . seeking help and strength to get over the crisis.
but today, after i read your post.. i was so overwhelmed. i am sure many of us are going to keep referring to it often to make sure we remember it in no so lucky times for hope. because difficult times come uncalled and you are left with none other than urself & god to help.

thank you so much , one more thing..atleast now we are all together
to help each one of us. if not in person - in spirit and soul and words.
together we will make a better world for our kids!

love
hems

 

Dear Shanthi,
Though I am very late, count me on your fan-club.
I would just like to add one more point, as a " long-time" wife (??!!).
Make sure, you give in - all fights should be resolved in bed. You give up your ego for your own personal gain emotionally.
You will notice a magical change in your husband, the next morning.
This is one instance where we win ultimately by losing ourselves ! You stand to gain.
I am never a prude - so typical of me to share this with you.
Love,
Chithra.

 

Hi to all ILs,
I want to share my technique too. I will be happy if someone get benefitted from this.

when I am very much upset and my husband is not at home, I will
1)(i) refresh myself (wash my face, have nice coffee/tea)
take a clean paper and a pen. Be open minded, Write down what I am thinking, What is my problem, list down the options to solve the problem, findout the solution, once I found the solution, tear-off the paper into small pieces thinking that I am tearing the problems. I will throw the papers in the dustbin where my husband won't see.

2) If my husband is @ home, I will analyse myself in the restroom where I can think without any disturbance. Since I cann't spend more time in restroom, I will comeout and I will perform pooja and I will shut my eyes closed and start talking to the God. I will pour all of my problems to the God and later when my hubby is not there, I will continue with the first technique.

I found most of the problems gets solved this way.

When I was newly married, I disguess each and everything with my husband, and l was expecting the same from him. But later, I realised that that is not the way the life is. No one can be 100 per-cent perfect. I started accepting the reality. Figuredout what are all the things I should give more importance etc.

with cheers,:wave
Kavitha.

 

hi shanthi,
it is awesome,generally watever we faced in reallife,u expressed very well.
cheers
sandhya

 

dear shanthi,
excellent ideas & thoughts. i have joined this site today only.:goodidea:
neeta

 

wow shanti,
Excellent, i dont have words to express abt this article
good work and :goodidea: to share in IL

thanxs and keep posting

---Sreelatha :wave