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Going to a Male Gynac - AWKWARD!!

Discussion in 'Gynaecology' started by soulful, Mar 9, 2013.

  1. soulful

    soulful Platinum IL'ite

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    hello All - I have to take an appointment with a gynec and have 4 options - 2 male and 2 female. I wanted to go with a lady gynec but problem here is that the 2 females have not been reviewed as well as the males have been. I mean the reviews are not all bad, but the men seem to have done MUCH better. But I feel awkward. At the same time, I am not sure I would want to settle for the females, because one of the reviews mentioned she was pretty rough and it hurt.

    Needless to say, I have been putting off taking the appointment for a over a month now. What should I do? Please help:drowning
     
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  2. LunaDoveDesigns

    LunaDoveDesigns Silver IL'ite

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    Find a different office?

    I have refused to have a male gyn. It makes me incredibly uncomfortable. Besides, how could a man possibly be able to relate to feminine issues the way a female dr can?
     
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  3. aminroop

    aminroop IL Hall of Fame

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    most doctors treat it like any other job. its their job afterall. dont worry too much. go to the better doctor. and as gynecs and obstetricians, men are far more gentle and understanding than the ladies. for the ladies it is like what the big deal, i have been thru it too, dont make fuss. while, a man wud be more sympathetic and gentle.


    i am a doctor myself. and im saying this cos i ve seen a lot of male OB&G's and they all came across as very gentlemanly and sympathetic to me.

    goodluck.
     
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  4. soulful

    soulful Platinum IL'ite

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    Thank you lunaDove and Aminroop, I am simply becoming so self conscious.

    Aminroop, I can understand that as a doctor yourself, you may have a diiferent view of your colleagues, but as a patient who doesn't know them, I am not sure what to think. I completely agree with what you have to say about the attitude of female gynecs, viz. they know what it is all about and hence are more prone to dismissing our fears. That is why the confusion

    Has anyone else been in my position? Did you feel awkward first time or even subsequent visits? What did you do?

    Thanks
     
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    rose8282 Platinum IL'ite

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    I went to a gynaec and although she was a woman, she was young. She told me that there was some tissue that she thought is suspicious and wanted her instructor to look at it...I was like gawkkkkkkk....:eek:mg: but I was already in that compromised position. She asked me if she had my permission...now I couldnt refuse coz it was a matter of finding if I had any tumor...so I had to say yes. Anyway...it was nothing much. I just closed my eyes and thought go aheaddddddddd. Thankfully it was an old man...he must have seen 10's and 1000's of vagina's:biglaugh

    On a serious note, it is just our feeling, but for them it is not your face...only the part in question that they look at with a totally different frame of mind and by this time, they would be so used to it that it is nothing for them. Everything is professional, so dont worry. It is your health and your body...dont neglect!
     
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    DiViV New IL'ite

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    Hi,
    I had my delivery done by a male OBGYN. Although I had initially started with a lady ObGyn. I felt a little awkward in the beginning, but then thinking that it was something they had been doing for long made me relax. I personally wouldn't mind a male doc hereon. To tell you the truth , they just aren't really bothered once they are done with the checkup. If you find better reviews for the male docs then you should definitely consult them. Otherwise you can lookup for another practise. like one of the posters mentioned women ObGyns tend to say what's the big deal. The male docs generally would be little gentler than the female docs.
     
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    dear OP,

    please don't worry and just go with male gynaec.

    especially after you have heard that the female ones are not good.

    i have heard from many women that most of the female gynaecs are rough and very rude, they would actually make you more uncomfortable.

    for them it is just a tissue, like any other tissue of the body, and they are checking it for any abnormalities, that is all nothing more than that.

    the male gynaecs are genarally gentler, and very understanding.

    no need to worry, its their job, they do it everyday. they have worked very hard to reach till here, they are very dedicated, they work odd hours.

    my friends who were studying MBBS used to tell me how the guys in their batch would really pity women during labour, and even console them unlike the girls in the batch.

    its just rubbish that they can't understand a woman's pain, sometimes they understand even better than lady docs.

    and do you only go to a cancer specialist if he himself has suffered from cancer, then why this fuss over gynaecs only?
     
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  8. moukthika9

    moukthika9 Gold IL'ite

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    Don't think like that......In my view any doc is same irrespective of their gender difference.....all we need to care is their good name and fame,even my gyneac is male......
     
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    Hi Soulful,
    It is imp to go to a doc with good reviews and experience......Male or female doest make any diff.....Doc is a profession where they go through 100's of cases....U r one of those ...Thats it....Dont worry...I too have a male gyneac...
     
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  10. curiousgal

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    Honestly, I find the male doctors better than the females here. My logic (may sound stupid to some) is that the female doctors would try to underplay your concerns in this area, because they might themselves have gone thru' something similar, so it might feel like, "Ok...so it happened to me as well...what's the big deal?" A man cannot claim the same ;-)

    I have gone thru' many fertility treatments myself, followed by check ups during pregnancy and finally, my c-section though done by a female, was assisted by a male.
    Doctors are doctors...it doesnt matter whether they are male or female. There must definitely be a reason as to why the male docs got good reviews, isnt it?
    But if u are still very uncomfortable, then find another practice where the female doctors have good reviews and have availability based on your convenience.
    Good luck!
     
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