Girl Groups…how Do You Make It Work!

anika987 · Feb 13, 2025

Rihana said: ↑

It’s surreal. People offer so many suggestions and share their experiences of how they did it. You say thank you and mention you'll try the steps, but then you come back and ask the exact same question in a different way, including the ever-present 'I/ no one is perfect,' 'I must be doing something wrong,' 'I end up with the wrong people,' and 'easy in India, hard in America.'

I am not here to troll you, Anika, but really, you keep asking the same thing again and again. It’s fine to do so, maybe it is just a vent or thinking aloud, but it feels like you’re stuck in a loop, expecting different results without making any changes.
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Hmm yeah I accept ..maybe am in a loop ..will stop

anika987 · Feb 13, 2025

indubalram said: ↑

I totally get where you're coming from. I’ve felt the same way, struggling with the pressure to fit into social groups and dealing with toxic friendships in the past. It’s tough, but it’s important to focus on finding relationships that feel natural, not forced. It’s okay to not have a big group if it doesn’t feel right for you
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Thanks Indu

hrastro · Feb 13, 2025

I had answered these questions in this post
How Not To Give Another Person A Remote Control To Your Emotions And Reactions

anika987 said: ↑

Anyways I have a question..
How can women so easily jump into girl groups even with detached attachment? When do u let your guard down I mean how long can one be careful?

How do I practice detached attachment?

I always thought only by being true and authentic one can have the right relationships coz what’s the point of being around. 100 people but fake smiles or just adjusting :.
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Rihana · Feb 13, 2025

hrastro said: ↑

I had answered these questions in this post
How Not To Give Another Person A Remote Control To Your Emotions And Reactions
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That's an impressive post, HR. I want to go in my Google Timeline and see where I was that week as I missed that thread looks like. Your post has clear, easy to understand steps that, with discipline and habit, we can gradually incorporate into our lives. That adoption may not be 100% and will always be a work in progress, but whatever we manage, we see the results.

If you have the time and inclination, please consider starting a separate thread, maybe in Education & Personal Growth section, using material from your posts in that thread. I would do it myself, but then I would have to quote your words, and requoting a quoted post that by others in the responses would be kludgy to do.

I absolutely love the idea:
"TAKE OWNERSHIP" - Don't blame someone else for YOUR Expectations!
It is not preachy, it is not absolving others of blame, it is simply the most efficient path to lowered disappointment and angst.

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