GETTING ANGRY IS NOT BAD, STAYING ANGRY IS. WHY WE GET ANGRY The subject has been dealt with in detail by our saints and sages, philosophers, intellectuals, and of course commoners. I being a common man will also deal with it in a very common way. The root cause of anger is expectations from others and the self. We get angry if something does not go as per our expectations. It may be someone else or our own self. That someone else may be our own parents, spouse, children, relatives, friends, or even strangers. We always expect something from others and if they fail to behave the way we want them to we get angry. I will not go into details because that will turn this article into a book. We get angry with ourselves because we do not measure up to our own expectations. We want to control our senses but cannot and hence get angry. We want to control our situation but cannot and hence get angry. We want to be successful in whatever we do but cannot and hence get angry. In short whatever we want to change but cannot hence get angry. HOW CAN WE AVOID BEING ANGRY It is obvious that if we can control the root causes of anger, we can control anger. It seems so simple but it is not because the very assumption that we can control the root causes of anger is self-defeating. Anger is a natural reaction and very much human. Those who claim to have control over their anger are not speaking the truth. There is no need to control anger. Being angry is not a crime. Staying angry is. In anger one speaks his/her heart out. The truth comes out. That truth may not be everybody’s truth but at least it is his truth. Anger reveals a man inside out. Say it and be done with it. If you do not do it you will stay angry and that is dangerous because it does no harm to others but a lot of harm to you. It is like acid that eats the vessels it is stored in.