Anika, don't mistake me for saying this; your inferiority complex drives you nuts. You want to prove that you are worthy as you have had few negative experiences in your life. Think in your relatives perspective why they are targeting you! Since they think that you are an average student, lazy and dumb (even though you are not those), they are jealous now that you have got a well settled life with an understanding husband who takes care of whatever you need. you might not know your relatives day to day lives and whether they have nice or not so good life. Some of your relatives might feel that they have to work hard to get what they want (some of their husband might not spend their money for them) but for you, it's not the same and that they have to send the kids to day care where you take care of your kids, spending quality time with them. So they try to poke on one point which you think you are weak and that's what making you feel bad about yourself. Only you can change the way you think about yourself. Our mind is either our friend or our enemy.