Fulfillment in marital life

Is the lack in attaining happiness between the couples, lead to these complicated issues ?????

May be some others could shed their views here :bowdown

 

:clapInnerbliss,I agree with you .Never stop working on your marriage it always need to be worked on.We should always keep working on the betterment of our relationship ,it works both ways.:goodidea:isin't it so:hide:.

 

Once married it is not proper to have an extra-marital relationship....mainly because the consequences will be devastating to all concerned and it will be be very unfair. Either it is better to have such an open relationship with the knowledge of the spouse or part ways.

Society is changing. Preaching does not have any effect. Hence it would be better if a new social system evolves to take care of all such aberrations. Let us remember that marriage is a man-made social system and therefore it can be most certainly be changed by society and evolve a new lifestyle suited to the times.

It is any any day better to be honest and straight forward than lead a life of deceit. It is this deceit that makes our actions immoral and despicable rather than the act itself which can be understood.

Nandita

 

This is a very superficial view about EMAs .Married women also have EMAs with bachelors and other married men. All EMAs do not end in divorce or re -marriage, it could be a time-pass affair and repeated when the opportunity presents itself.:bonk

A married man will have a hundred excuses to justify his EMA by saying that his DW drove/compelled him to seek solace in another womans arms. He will never own up that he is morally depraved and weak willed, according to him the fault always lies with the wife :-
1 If the wife is working then the DH finds her to be too independent , proud.
2 If the wife is a SAHM then he finds her too dowdy and inspid.
3 If she is presentable then he likes the homely type.
4 If she is average looking then he goes for the pataka types
5 Most men like women who portray themselves as damsels in distress.
6 If the wife showers attention and love he gets smothered, if she doesnt then he seeks it outside.
Lastly , if nothing else works then he brings out the trump card by saying that the wife does not get along with his family ! As if the characterless woman he is going around with will fall at his parents feet !:spin

Now lets get some facts straight.
Married men as well as women have EMAs knowing that the other person is married.
Most of the times EMAs are time-pass and fun for them ,they have no intentions of marrying each other.
Its sort of a disease , a weakness , out of one affair , repentent and again they will repeat their behaviour.

The innocent spouse is no way responsible for the other spouses loose behaviour.:rant

Lets not put the burden of an EMA on to a wifes shoulders and paint the husband as a bechara (poor thing).
A person gets into an EMA with his/her eyes wide open and betrays the trust of his loyal partner , messes up his family life and kids future.
There is no recipe for a successful marriage as it requires two people to make it work.

 

Flowerlady

Well researched and well written:clap

 

Well said , FL!

 

May be people involved in EMA believe that they can have cake and it eat too??

 

Thankyou friends for liking my post !:bowdown
Most wives welcome the errant husband and feel that they have won , actually the DH has won as he enjoyed both at home and outside .
Maybe the errant wife is also taken back after her EMA by her DH ??

Having an EMA , getting caught, saying sorry and going back to homely comforts is called having the cake and eating it too !:rant

The ingredients for a successful marriage call for mutual love, respect and trust between the married couple. Simple yet complicated.