From door mat to dream girl…Is it applicable to married women??

Thank you Ilove sai for sharing this wonderful book..If not anything it definitely boosted up my self confidence. & with sandhya's fb I am starting this new thread friendssmiley

But could we apply this theory after marriage..The entire book tells as to how a girl should never over compensate, try to please, act caring to the man she loves. The author tells a girl to be elusive so that man comes running behind. (i.e complete emotional independence). thinkingsmiley
For instance she tells not to call him to know about his whereabouts nor should we call him to let him know about our whereabouts. A girl should not show that she is worried when he calls up after 1-2 hours of the usual time, should not dress sexily and give in so easily instead he should work hard to get what he wants, should not cook a elaborate meal, not expecting him to gift you, etc etc. :bang

But don’t we lose being ourself in this process? Atleast for me its v difficult to be manipulative..Thinking each time as to how I should react so that he will get attracted towards me..Is it wrong if I call him to know about his whereabouts when am really worried? Why should we restrain ourselves from expressing our love to our soul mate? Would ignoring really serves the purpose of winning him down? Why are men this way or are they simply pretending for their own convenience? Where has all his excitement of dating days gone?

This book holds good for unmarried gals predominantly and not for a married woman..But still it worth reading

These are some lighter moments where I enjoy the attention I receive by making him chase me rather than giving in too easily as told in that book:coffee

1) I never call him during office hours no matter what except for urgency. He would be calling me in the lunch hour. He had told me several times to call him if I feel bored. I would rather log into IL than calling him.
Result: He calls me and says miss you often

2) When going out in our bike, I would never hold him too close. He keeps yelling throughout the journey as to how other girls are so loving towards their man & am an exception. Honestly speaking I don’t like it that way in public
Result: Once in a blue moon I hug him tight & he would start flying, singing & becomes hyper romantic.

3) I would never kiss him on phone and he cribs as to how am not treating him.
Result: He started asking me to kiss him

So all married ladies/ to be married ladies do share your experiences of how you made yourself valuable so that DH started coming towards you rather than you begging for his time & action.

Forgot to add, my MIL behaves exactly like this dream girl. She just totally ignores H especially when am around & this man runs behind her to get her attention..Uff

P.S: If we succeed in this venture even he would start handling ILaws problems more maturely as we are not easily available for his service ideasmiley