Many of you ladies read and commented on my thread Wfh Creating Issues! - I posted my background and my issues. Things had calmed down a bit and we were settling down into a wfh routine. I took you all's advice and cooked extra on weekends and served that food during weekdays. In short - ambitious wife, type B husband, married for 15+ years, have a teenager, husband doesn't want wife to work but can't do much about it, wife manages career and home OK (great career, at home nothing special other than a few meals a week and the regular cleaning, shopping, planning etc.), husband completely unsupportive and unappreciative of wife's domestic efforts and career, wife resentful as she has been forced to take on all domestic duties including child rearing with him lounging on the couch all the time. Neither husband nor wife super expressive or lovey dovey. More matter of fact. Current issue: OK so for the past couple of years my husband brings up early retirement. He wants to retire in the next couple of years 20ish years before his retirement age! His reason - he hates his work. And I am unable to digest this. He has earned like any normal Indian techie (I was not able to earn much because of the career break but doing OK now) and we are financially comfortable. Wouldn't say we are rich by any means. Not dotcom millionaires or anything like that. We are frugal and have saved up to live a good life if we work until retirement. He says he has run the numbers and we will be fine. But the early retirement scares me. Reasons for me being opposed to his retiring early I don't like that we will have to skimp more but I am unable to get past the unfairness! He was the one who insisted on traditional roles (men go to work, women do the cooking) and I managed my work without having him pitch in. What gives him the right to topple everything right now just because he is tired of working? I was expected to fulfill gender roles, then why is he special? I didn't get a choice so why should he? My mind is a volcano now. So last week this came up and we had a big fight. I said I have a couple of conditions - I will not retire early because he did, he has to do all the chores I currently do and lastly, I might take up an even more demanding job to further my career which so far has been kind of on hold. He surprisingly agreed to it all but when agreeing, he said something like - So what's the big deal, I will cook once a week. I was so mad because I realized that he thinks all I do is cook once a week! We all know how much more there is to raising a kid and running a house. We both were frustrated and he says he doesn't care about me anymore and won't talk to me. Once again the silent treatment cycle. This time, I am also very upset and hurt because he undermined my 15+ years of work and service. In my marriage, divorce is not an option for me because my family would not be supportive of it. For him, it is an option as he is the kind of person who doesn't care about family ties. So this gives him more power in the relationship. I am here looking for two things 1. Advice on how to handle the emotional situation (I can handle the financial part as I am working) 2. Working ladies who have similar issues where husbands hate that their wives work, won't help out with domestic work in any way AND are unappreciative of the wife's efforts. How do you deal with it? Any experiences would be therapeutic.