Friends

Friends

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We all have friends,made over the years,and still being made now,just as neighbours,and others.The earliest friends are thru School and College carefree days,when it was just pure friendship, with money and status no where in the picture.Those friendships stay by far the longest and the best.When u meet an old school friend, u can for hours discuss yr childhood, the pranks, the teachers,the exams,and hours will roll by,forgetting the dauly nitty gritties,and the problems of today go out of the window.Of course yr spouse will not share the same enthuasiam, because she has not seen u then,and metu much later in life.



I have two sets of friends.One set from Mumbai, and the next from Jaipur.Mumbai i have two close friends,we are like brothers,we met in 71, when we shifted to Worli fromChembur.We have seen movies together, watched Cricket matches,seen each other searching for mates,getting engaged,getting married,and having kids who have now grown up,and are maried too.We have discussed the pros and cons of the girls our parents showed us.They used to bring the photos of the girls,and show me what i thought of the face,and how she looks,whether she would be right.Now looking at a pic what can I say? Like looking at my pic,no girl would have married me,so how could i pass comment,and i had to be diplomatic and say,yes she looks good.We are still thick friends.There are hardly any secrets between us.



The next set of friends is the Jaipur Gang.10 close ones,and many acquaintences.But I havnt found any here that i can trust with my innermost problems 100%.Some of them are good for jokes sharing,and lighter moments,some good for a movie outing,and some good for gossip.Only one is good for a personal discussion.



The problem today,These are my personal feelings,not bound on anyone please,is that money plays the spoilsport between friends.Some friends are not very well off,but still friends,some medium and some super rich.So somewhere borrowing comes in between for marriages and diseases,and it becomes a difficult choice then how avoid lending,or if lended,how to recover back the money,in one installment as promised at the time of taking the money.If you give, then a problem,if u dont,u are damned.




I always state to my friends, that if ever i come asking for a loan, throw me out of the house.This is a hint that they too should not come.I tell them there is so much money the banks and credit card companies are willing to give, its unbelieveable,so that they see my point.Why borrow or lend and create a rift in friendship, which is anyway very hard to comeby.This is the irony of life.



Friendship is unequal too.You have a childhood friend,still close,but who will come over to yr house hundreds of times for a drink,but will not invite you once.But then this friend is one on whom you can trust to come to yr help even at midnight,if u have any emergency,and will not go home till everything is all right with u and yr family.But these friends are called lechers by the wifey.she is right,but the hubby is also right.He is the childhood pal,and one to be depended at the time of crisis,but theladies wont understand at times.



I feel friends made at Indus, will most probably turn out to be good friends.Here the bond is of writing.We dont know nor care how rich the other person is,and it is the writing that counts among them.To those who make friends here, great,to those who dont want to,fine.
I have made two good male friends at Indus and value their friendship very much.No names.


It is very rare to find a friend as selfless,and equal to yr financial background,and where giving and taking is almost equal.But to those who have such friends,I want to tell them,God has been kind to you,and you cannot ask him for anything more.God has been kind to me for sure.Thanks Big Boss.



KAMAL MAHTANI

 

Meeta,

Thank you for a wonderful reply.This could have made a good blog in itself meeta.

Yes we hae all types of friends, but i feel the school and college friends are the best, as we had friendship with them which was not based of rich and poor, what caste or reliogion.it was pure friendship.

Welcome to india, and have a great meeting with yr long lost friends, and find more of them whuile u are here.

thanks a ton.Regards.kamal

 

Meeta,

So orkut helped u find a few friends.Great.Find some more.Regards.kamal


Nivedi,

Great that u have got in touch with 4 of yr friends.All the best,and ahve a great time with them.REgards.kamal