Quite confused for the past two weeks. One of my close friends has told me that she is involved in an emotional EMA for some months now. A quick BG, she is married for 8 years now and has a 3 year old son. Her husband works in a software company and also handles his father’s grocery store. So, practically he spends very little time with the family. Although she is not working, she has enough financial independence. She meets her friends very often, parties with them and has quite a comfy life as she calls it. So why an EMA? The answer is she is longing for love, and wants a person to pamper her, flirt with her and give her the teen love to her. She and her husband have lost the spark and life is very monotonous with him is her argument. So basically she calls and chats with this guy soon after her husband leaves to office, and since he comes home pretty late usually, she meets him once or twice a week. “I told my husband that I have got pain in my hand, he didn’t bother. But this guy ordered a massager for me online. Don’t you think he is just madly in love with me?” She asks me. I am stunned in a way, because she is very clear about this. She doesn’t want to break her marriage, nor her EMA. I want it both, she tells me. And to my surprise she handles it quite well. She justifies that this is just an emotional EMA and she needs a person to be there for her. While I see from some movies and hear from some other friends about this monotony that creeps in after few years of marriage, is it right to have an emotional EMA? It is very common, she tells me. I am not sure about this whole “it is very common” thing. What do you ppl think? Who is at fault? Personally I don’t think her husband is matured and is taking life seriously while she is merely playing around. Why is that she is not independent in her emotions even at 32 and constantly demand validation and appreciation? Since two weeks am choked with this. I feel pathetic about her husband, but I don’t know what more to do than feel sad for him. Do you have some suggestions for me on how to approach this or should I just not care about it?