Forcing to pierce baby boy ears from In-laws relatives on DH

If you feel strongly about it...put your foot down. Tell in laws to have the function at their place ...or tell them to make sure this does not happen.Tell husband you will make a scene if this happens during the ceremony.Usually...that scares people.

 

to do it or not should be ur's and ur H call... it shud not be influenced by others,..

tell ur H that u dont like this and as such cannot participate in the function...

 

Is your husband's ears pierced? If no, tell him to first pierce his ears. If yes, tell your PIL to fetch photos of your husband's ceremony's and show it to him, how much he cried. Show him a youtube video of baby crying when ears are pierced and drop few tears infront of him.
example:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=veuZ7nBfN48

 

First of all, I can understand you love and care towards your 9 month baby.You don't want your baby to go through any pain. That's fine.


As someone suggested, if you create a scene out of this it will spoil your relationship with family members going forward. Please don't do it.


Following traditional value is not a bad idea. Ear Piercing is a common tradition that is still being followed by so many people. As we get modernized we feel that some of the traditions are useless and awkward . Our culture and family values are still alive because most of the people still following traditional things like this. Every tradition we follow has some meaningful facts behind but we might not be aware of it.


While piercing, the baby will go through pain for just few minutes after that it becomes normal. Don't worry much about the pain. In my point of view, one of the beautiful photo a kid can ever have is the one taken during ear piercing function. It may bring tears of pain during the piercing but when you look at this photo after so many years it may bring tears of happiness.


Just shared my view on this.

 

If at all you have to go with piercing option , try to get a gunshot done. Its pain free atleast the baby will not be uncomfortable.

 

I read this in a blog
"
Please note that not piercing the ear does not have any serious ramifications. As a hindu ritual it helps, and is also now revered by the Chinese in the name of Acupunture. The meridian points in the ear lobes connect to the left and the right hemisphere of human brain, and the piercing has the activation impact. Similar effect of brain activation may achieved by doing the ‘Thoppukuranam’ or sit-ups. -

See more at: http://blog.ishtadevata.com/the-science-behind-ear-piercing.html#sthash.wRXGljmy.dpuf"

Not agreeing, just adding info

 

Thanks for sharing this info

 

It is good to follow family traditions, but that does not mean that others have control over our bodies or our bodily functions.

Tell them you respect their traditions and customs, but you do not wish the ear piercing to be practiced on your son. Period.

No need for further clarification. Even if somebody probs you to give the reason, no need to give any specific reason or justification. Just say you have made the decision based on various reasons.

 

Very nice post hrastro!

At my workplace, I am the only Indian/Hindu, and I am subjected to various kinds of 'questions' on my traditions and religion.

I try not to retort back, but once I told them that all our practices and customs have a scientific basis, like the benefit of cow's milk, which scientists have now linked to the special structure of the cow's spinal cord, and so many such examples.

I asked a co worker, if there is any scientific reason for her traditions like eating animals which have slit hooves like cows and not eating the meat of animals with joint hooves like horses...............and as I expected she had no answer.