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Its the society which needs change. They had created women as a symbol of sacrifice, machine to do house hold chores and along with this they must earn. When women go out work why can't men enter the kitchen and learn the cooking techniques. We women all feel proud in telling that we are into all fields of society but fail at home. There is nothing proud in this unlike men we are also born to a mom with all good qualities.

Instead we must make society tell that today's woman empowered the male society at home and made them participate in all works. All mil please read the post and remember you were once a woman who expected your husband to help you in all means, now when another woman does why so insecure feel. She would be you some day so teach her the good, learn to leave the bad.

 

That was a good article... just forwarded to my DH Computer Typing

 

Hmm, tsk blaming the society. Society is nothing of its own but we people, its we who formed it that way by following what we learned from your parents. It wont be possible to change a man but wont be so tough to change a boy.
So its all in our (women's) hand not in the hands of our society. If a mother treat both the gender fairly, then such issues may fade or disappear in the future.


Every Mom should change their mindset, they should break this male dominated society status. First believe in the fact that Men and women are created equally (equal doesn't mean same) but treated unequally.

Every mom should involve both her son and daughter in household chores.
A child (both son & daughter) should have household responsibilities.
So if you really wanna see these changes in our society.Transform yourself to a responsible mom :thumbsup.

Complaining about things wont work, Take the initiative, hard luck that we cant change the present society but we can change the future for sure. ...:thumbsup

 

I agree 1000% with Angellic, its we who need to change, every single step will be progress for the whole.
My husband for example does help in kitchen, he can cook, clean, wash dishes, clothes and iron, mop etc. ... why is it so? Coz his mother didnt spare him from household chores just for him being a male and its not like she had a lack of daughters.. its simply she WANTED him to do it.
Even if he would have never touched any household item, I would have tought him myself how to do it. I think nowadays its not possible anymore to seperate duties like that anymore, specially because women are successful in all fields but men often still fail at home... Sure its practical for them to have an all-inclusive-package but isnt it embarassing too that a wife is more capable of doing things?
I saw a lot of men waking up in hostels without full-time service laugh1smiley... and i saw often that even they learned in that period to do everything themselfes they stopped moving one finger after getting married.... like a flipped switch... and the wifes even they felt something weird did nothing about it cause they where afraid of their reputation and his mood....

 

Oh yes, boys & girls must learn cooking, it help a lot. Thats reminds me my early days of marriage, I was so so in cooking but OMG hubby was expert in cooking. We both was working at that time, and I never felt cooking as a duty. We both chatted & cooked together. In fact when I moved with him just after marriage, the first meal was cooked by him. After 15 years of happy married life, my 12 Y old son & 8 Y old daughter leraning cooking from dad.

 

As far as cooking and other household chores goes, yes men must learn it.

Even now my MIL tells her son arrogant, "Don't do this, its not a Man's job, don't pick dirty plates after eating, that's not your job, me or DIL will pick it".

Even after telling my husband repetitively in all possible ways, i have not been able to change those things in him. Instead if i asked him to help as we both are working and equally tired, he would expect me to carry 10 Kgs for rice or flour from the store and bring home to 2nd floor by stairs, as i spoke about begin equal, which he being a man can do and i being a girl find it difficult to do. So its not just the chore, but the mentality and respect for women. That is the thing we need to teach our sons more than anything else. I am sure my MIL has never taught my husband that.

 

wow :ranti came across such lines of argumentation too :bang I feel they choose to manipulate and turn the facts to their satisfaction

You are totally right, its NOT just the chore but even more the respect they learn to have (or not to have) towards women :yes::cheers Even men who cook can actually be discriminating against women in some ways...
How did you react on his comments about the carrying things home??? How did it go on??? Sorry for asking too private things if you dont want to share its ok, im just interested how to deal with such comments as i thought about what I would say in such a situation... guess I would have gave (shouted?) him a full list of things / goodies he wont get in future anymore if he tries to meassure like this...

 

yes.. so the bottom line is he don't know how to respect women.

Coz maybe his mother was never given the respect she deserved in front of him, so he never learns. So i just took pity on both my husband and MIL, and ignored them. And instead started ordering those stuffs online, where they will deliver things at my doorstep and i just pay them... .. which was also not difficult as i am working....

 

one more thing.... one of my friend told me this...and i really love it... "we are not our DHs mothers, we can't teach them new things now at 25 or 30 years... or undo what they learned for 25 or 30 years now. moreover, we have not married them to be their teachers and waste our energies trying to teach them something which we might or might not able to... so just enjoy what is good and ignore what is not so good. We are self sufficient anyways ....:hatsoff"