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Discussion in 'Friends & Neighbours' started by anika987, May 19, 2022.

  1. anika987

    anika987 IL Hall of Fame

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    hmm ...true. as u said...when it comes to family one automatically think they will be good but when they turn out to be toxic..it is extremely hard to accept.keep giving excuses for their behavior,blaming ourselves for not able to accept them..it is nightmare.one particular relative is someone who acts super friendly but the most untrustworthy and suffocating person to be around.it took 14 years for me to move away from her..she was like a leech(sorry if i sound rude) but that is the apt word.she uses people and drain them completely until she gets all the help she wants.but she is family!! so it was super hard to accept facts..could not anymore..but then i had to for my own good.sad but had to do it..
     
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    chanchitra Platinum IL'ite

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    YES. I KNOW. the efforts we have to put in navigating all this is not worth it.
     
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    mayflower2014 Gold IL'ite

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    Well, what i have noticed within my community is the ladies mingle with you only if you are a working woman. If a home maker, the "relationship" is restricted only to Hi-Bye, nothing more inspite of making many advancements to stay in touch. This applies even to the right next door neighbour.!!!
     
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    anika987 IL Hall of Fame

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    Honestly I think the opposite:)right now am working but I was a homemaker for a decade.
    My best friend in my community is a full time working mom.Most of my buddies are women who work outside even when I was a stay at home mom.I also have friends who are stay at home moms.Both are wonderful and we cannot generalize . I think women irrespective the status quo ..some are naturally good at making friends and keeping it I feel.
     
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    SGBV IL Hall of Fame

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    I am a JOMO person, but i always end up having a lot of friends around. So FOMO is something i have never felt.
    Even during covid times, i have been part of many WhatsApp groups & face time with friends. So, I've always felt included.

    But, after reading your post, I've recognized the time, energy, money & efforts I've been paying to keep up these friendship alive. But while making these efforts, I've never felt otherwise. I've always done them naturally.

    That's what makes me the center of attention & the most wanted person among my friends.
     
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    Glad it is the other way for you. I wish i come across such people in my life.
     
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