Flight Travel In Injury

Sanjuruby, one thing I learned after many phone conversations with my parents is this - we living abroad, after a phone call, we remember it in all details, relive all the emotion, and brood on it multiple times, and keep thinking how to fix the things. People in India, talk in that phone call, vent or air their frustrations about neighbors, relatives, health, injuries, bored... and they move on.

You know all the above, so it is obviously not a good idea to have him over. You have small kids, hectic job, social commitments, having father over is not going to benefit any one.

You've been married long enough now. Stop the practice of in-laws need equal time. In-laws need equal time with your kids, not with you. All your time can go with parents. let your husband take the kids to his parents house. With vacation being such a precious commodity, and your parents having health problems, it is perfectly understandable if you spend all your India trip time with your parents, and maybe 1-3 days at in-laws.

More than getting your father to the U.S., they will benefit if you can make a short solo trip more often than the whole family trip. Narrow your focus from "all of us should go to India" to "how can I make short solo trips more often." Initially, all will have n objections and comments if you plan a solo trip. Once you have the dates finalized, PTO approved, and tickets booked, and start making plans for your husband to manage kids in your absence, everything will start to fall in place. As long as it is an idea you keep talking about, people will keep commenting. Once it is more tangible like tickets are paid for, things settle down.

TL;DR: Go easy on yourself. We living in the U.S. keep reliving each phone call. People in India talk in one phone call, then move on to dealing with the aches, pains, therapy and visiting relatives. Instead of having your father over, see if you can arrange for guided tours in India itself which will give him a break from the routine.