Sorry about that. Hopefully, she will develop the skills to help her calm down with your help. If you are looking for books, this CBT book for little kids came up in my recent research. I haven't used it yet but CBT(Cognitive Behavioral Therapy) is supposed to be really helpful and effective in replacing anxious thoughts. Apparently, these strategies practiced early on in childhood can help the kids life long. I glanced through the entire series and loved it.