Financial Independence For Woman

It means, both the earnings, yours and your DH, to be pooled and kept open in your bedroom cash box
and do not lock, the cash box, both of you are entitled to use it, whenever, for whatever purpose, but
with the knowledge of the other. Follow the God's standard, for using the money earned by both of you,
after all, whatever, both are earning is because God has given you both Wisdom, knowledge, understanding
good health, transport facilities and so on. Thank God for everything (I mean for all the blessings he has
showered upon you both). Analyse and evaluate, once in a year (probably end of the year), whether both
of your have been following the God's standard, during the entire year. Improve every year, come closer
to following God's standard of earning and spending money, for you and your families, friends and others in
need. This is according to me.

 

In Olden days, only men used to earn and women used to manage home. So men were the main bread earners and head of the families. Women used to depend on their husbands financially. Generations changed, now women also equally earning with their husbands, but still the mindsets are same as olden days, now also in our society husband is the head of the family even though wife earns equally with him. That's how our society is build up. But slowly things are changing there are men who give financial freedom to their wives.

Also, I have seen some wives objecting their husbands to help his parents (who are completely dependent on their son). There are some men who secretly help his parents without the knowledge of his wife to avoid fights with wife.

So we should not strike out the fact that there are some dominating women who controls their husband and his financial freedom.

Overall there are good & bad men, also good & bad women. Only thing needed in a marriage is understanding. If there is understanding between the couple, then financial and other issues doesn't matter.

 

Your comments make me laugh!

Can you guess, how many working men I know of where they have to get their daily allowance from their ""Homemaker" wife, how many of them don't even carry their purse when stepping out along with their wife, they are not allowed to spend anything on their own? For some women, it seem very convenient to put everything as men vs women issue, so convenient to blame men for every damn thing happening around them and in this society. If you ask working men, how much the contribution of their working wife towards big purchases, EMI etc, they will tell a different story; significant size of men are looked as literally an ATM machine by their family; majority of the working women tend to keep significant amount for themselves, a choice that does not exist for men.

Please open up, breath some fresh air. The issue is not between men vs women; it is between good vs bad, weak vs dominant, responsible vs irresponsible, generous vs selfish, law abiding vs crooked, and so on. You can find all these flavors in both gender, primarily depend on how they brought up by their parent, the values and culture taught and roll modeled by their parent, and the environment they have grown up. Nothing gender about this.

 

Rightly said. Its the flavors and not the gender.

 

Simple.

Make more money.

Practical advice?

Chart the boundaries before getting into the relationship. Learn to be assertive and unafraid in pointing out the hypocrisy.

 

Also, if you're dining out, go Dutch or pay the tab on your turn. That's another way of expressing your financial independence.

 

Why would I do that? If I have bought "him" with my inheritance money?