Feeling 'Void'

Yes i do feel aloof for a few days as life is a lot different here. Don't worry you are not alone in this virtual world. Spend more time with your DH,go for a movie,eat out,listen to some peppy number.

Why have you not made any friends here?. Try to go out as that deviates your mind. If possible ask your DH to take a day off and go for a long drive just to take the edge off. I am sure you are going to be chirpy and get back on track soon. Big hugs to you:cheers.

 

Hi smart_soul,

Its very usual after a nice India trip. We felt same way before 2yrs,once we are back from our country.

That weekend we went to malls and whole day we kept roaming in mall, after tired day, we slept well. Then watched movied in net and had chat with parents & inlaws...

Slowly from next week we got accustom to this enviornment, even then in one or other activity or while preparing any particular dishes we keep talking same what happend when we were there.

Don't worry, you should be alright in couple of days dear...

 

smart_soul,

I become a lost soul after a trip to home...

More worse than what you've just mentioned.. That is why i fear going to India these days, afraid to handle the return..

 

smart soul,
its home sick my friend. i got the same feeling when i came back from india last august. my father got heart surgery and mother had surgery for both knees. i went for 1 month and had some family functions and stayed only 10days at my moms place. they are just 65 and don't care about their health and i am always worrying about them. it took 1 month for me to get back to normal even when i went to work and had friends. sometimes i think we have friends, parties etc but no parents:-(. we have vonage service and call them every sunday night, sometimes there is nothing to talk , but i feel comfortable if they are "OK".

 

Even for me coming back from India you need to decompress and readjust. Also this is such a BORING time of year: dirty snow, dripping eaves, can't open the windows yet, the cat is BORED, I am BORED, the car is dirty by why clean it it's going to be dirty again in 10 mins, sick of veg from Chile....want some local stuff, want to go see friends in another city but is the weather stable enough yet?, feel like throwing out 90% of my stupid possessions and going shopping but I am still broke from this stupid recession, feel like gardening but its just a little too early, tv is BORING, satellite radio is BORING, books are BORING.....

 

smart_soul,

Its absolutely normal my dear. The main driving force there is "Parents". Once you spend happy times with them, now the time when you have to take the responsibility again will haunt us. In addition to that, I feel when you have a vacation to India, it'll be a real vacationing, meaning no work, no stress etc etc.

We visit India almost every year and every time its the same routine, that heaviness or vacuum we feel when we have to return and it lasts even after we return. Last year, I delayed my return by another week just to fill another happy week at home. The day we were back, my own home here felt like a stranger's home. It took almost couple of days for us to get adjusted to our old environment. This happens to almost everyone. Especially if you happen to stay for longer than usual the home-sickness increases. Hope you get back from your home-sickness soon .

-Uma

 

Nice to see smart-soul out of homesickness!!

Have fun!!