Feeling unhappy with married life.

Have you tried taking a vacation without him....maybe to your parents place?Get him to miss you and yearn for you.Sometimes...a little distance works.

 

3 years are a long time to stay with the same husband. I say, dump him!!:cheers

 

Well, okay, I will add some value to the thread.

Have you talked to him about it?

The first year of marriage cannot be equated to anything else. Thats the discovery period and every new discovery about the partner gives joy. To keep up with it, you also have to re-invent yourself and add new characteristics.

Or else just be lively and fun to be with.

 

Think of something which refresh your relation you had .. time and the usual daily life spread the powder on it and you just needs to re polish it with one or another way, Not to worry much on this. Like said, leave away from him for a while or go for a vacation where both you likes..it will make difference

 

Hey don't worry dear, this happens in most marriages!! When the novelty factor dies out couples tend to take each other for granted...i know it is wrong but it happens, unfortunately!
Why dont u plan a nice surprise for him? A candle light dinner, watch his favorite movie, surprise him by sending a bouquet of roses out of the blue! He may get the hint do something special for you! Do not be upset if your husband does not give u gifts all the time...some men think it is unimportant. Does he show love through his actions? Does he help around the house, appreciate you for who u are? That is what matters in the long run!

 

Yes, I totally agree with Alildream. The first year is the best in a marriage.

 

The first year of marriage is called the "honeymoon" period. That is when you discover each other, your likes, dislikes etc.

Do not consider the fact that he does not gift you anything to mean that he cares less for you. Some people are like that. It took my husband ONLY 15 years to give me a surprise birthday gift. Usually he would just ask me what I wanted, and if I said I had no clue, he'd give some money. (extremely unromantic right?) Each person is different. Don't compare him to your friends husbands. No idea what is actually happening in their house right?

As for going out only with parents....happens to the little boys we marry all the time. It takes a lot of courage for them to leave momma and come to wife. But once they get that it is fun, and that we won't let them get run over by a truck, etc, they actually start enjoying trips with us.

Go spend a week or so with your parents. Just tell him that you miss them so much, and that anyway he is busy with work, so he won't really miss you. Then watch what happens! In my case it was me who wanted to go to my parents place and spend some time away from him (yup...went through that phase too). That was when I realized how much he meant to me and how much I missed him. So much so that my mother actually asked me to pre-pone my return and go back to him!

Absence does indeed make the heart fonder

 

There is nothing new or different. it's very general. As all say period between your engagement and marriage is golden time and then 1st year of marriage is honeymoon.
This time never repeat and later on our life come on usual track. I never heard from any of my friend who say her married life after 1st year is same as 1st year.
Regarding gift and holidays, I am married for 6.5 years and still waiting for a surprise gift and good holiday. Whenever I ask my DH to go holiday , he will say plant it. And if I planned and share with him planning he will say what you will be there...let's sleep (he is who can sleep 24 hrs) at home.. . So now when I want to go some where , I plan and book ticket so that he doesnot get any option to say 'No'.

So don't take it negative and plan something own. And yes, I will suggest you to keep changing your self (makeover or try something new) , this is what I do.