Feeling Trapped

Why noone is replying????..This is a very common problem..Invest in yourself..your hobbies , likings .Dress up..go out with your friends..these people are not going to change ..keep minimum expectations..hope this helps..

 

There are hundreds sailing in same boat as @Trisha14 and emerged victorious overcoming seemingly difficult situations and emotional turmoil in life. Ms Trisha is not alone here. Be bold assertive and engage yourself with hobbies and do good constantly to others .

Offer your apparel to sil before she lay hands on that and enjoy the emotional bliss and change. Instead of thinking tit for tat, be lending a helping hand to every member in the family and it will over time bring cheer to every one.

Bemoaning daily the situation you encounter would progressively deteriorate your health and therefore it is sine qua none accept the reality and you continue to be cheerful come what may.

My prayers are with thee for your well being and all your extended family members.
God Bless

 

First, your feelings are valid. Ask yourself why you are staying in this marriage—are you dependent on them? Start protecting yourself: lock your things and don’t allow anyone to use them without permission. If you are ok sharing things, then also, do only with you agreeing on it or you can offer things. Its up to you. Remember, you can’t change anyone, only yourself.
Don’t take your mother-in-law too seriously—if there is something good in what she says, acknowledge it and appreciate it; if you find fault in everything, you’ll just get the same back. Focus on genuine, positive things for yourself. If someone disrespects you, walk away or calmly say, ‘Don’t talk to me that way.’ Give respect, take respect, and only react when it’s really bad. Instead of focusing on others, focus on yourself.
Communicate your emotional and physical needs to your husband, but in a way that is not complaining, because many men shut down when they feel stressed or have a problem. Since he may be under stress from debt, you can try to be his home—providing peace and support—and look for ways to connect with him. If you like to work, try to become financially independent—it will give you strength and freedom.