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Discussion in 'Fertility & Trying to Conceive' started by hivid, Jun 26, 2013.

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Thank you so much Sangeetha

I will PM you! It was really encouraging to read your note. I must say you are a brave girl.And yes as you say, we are all better off than so many people in this world..
I know its depressing but I definitely need to overcome it and move on.
Thanks again. It meant a lot!

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Hey it is obvious that you will be depressed. Because I am undergoing a condition called premature ovarian failure where I have menstruated only 3 times for 15 years and I am 29 years old and its because of chromosomal disorder where it is irreversible as per medical terms. I had my mind and body just like a 50 year old women when I was just 18 years. you will now know how difficult it would have been. I have given up my career, job for this But I am fighting and will fighting and I am getting better day by day.I am getting the cure now.......

Now coming to the point of hope. Yes I have loads loads of hope and for the past 15 years I was undergoing your same kind of depression where there was no one to give me emotional support after that only my hubby came into picture and he got married knowing this condition and he said only one sentence" "lets make this happen I am there and we will trust god and pray him"" hope you know now how much I would have undergone.

Think why is this happening?? see where u are doing mistakes in food intake,exercise,mental stress.Break the hurdles. You can Ping me and ask for emotional support I can help to my fullest possible.

Don't give up. Life is too short to live and in that these are all tests of god to see how well you are playing this pool and make things happen.Ask,fight,plead in god. Don't think he will come in front of you and say you """ here is your cure my daughter""" you will messages or some signs in some form to come our of this difficulty.

Keep fighting keep fighting. We ladies need to be stronger mentally. don't give up. Look for people without eyes,legs,hands,child born with cerebral palsy, heart defect, cancer patient. Now is your case small enough in front of these diseases???

Answer my question above u will know how easy it is for you to get out.

PM me how u are progressing

Women has the power to change anything I believe in that because our world stands in Maha Sakthi
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Thanks Sheshin

I tried to look for a RE here in Gurgaon but found none. I totally agree what you say but somehow the concept of RE is not too popular here. If I go to a infertility specialist they will directly put me on treatments. Infertility treatments are a big business here I tell you.
I will continue to look for RE.

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Dear, I understand your pain. Please don't drag yourself into depressing mode. I wanted to tell you something regarding the treatments. With pcos and male issues, it is good to consult reproductive endocrinologist than normal gynecologist. Gynecs expertise is not enough to handle PCOS patients when it comes to conceiving. I'm not saying it is not possible. But as per my gynec it is good to try upto 2 to 3 cycles with them and if it doesn't click it is better to consult RE instead of wasting time and money with them. RE s are trained to deal with these issues so they have advanced medical approach to the issue.
Try to have a discussion with your doctor and make a clear plan. 28 is not a number to worry. Have a positive approach, eat organic as much possible. Take prenatal regularly. Do exercise to keep you fit. Pray hard. It will happen soon. All the best.
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Thanks a ton luckyme. Your words have brought a ray of confidence in me.
I think I am going going to let go of this pain and depression and just concentrat on how to improve my health. With just one hope that [regnancy will automatically follow.
Its just that the whole process of pregnancy is so natural. Ppl had 8-9 kids easily in those days. It feels sad that I have to undergo so much of stress for it..Yet it doesn't happen.

But as you say I will have of think of other things to keep me happy and motivated instead of sulking over failed Hpts.

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Dear hivid,

See so many ppl are there to cheer u up...

I may not understand ur problems but i can understand ur pain...u need not be depressed as it's going to make u regress ...u should progress by keeping a positive attitude....u have so many examples of women who have fought and found success...read all the threads n u'll know....u have so many who are in the same boat as u....who r fighting with a smile...

It's a struggle to get things these days...we all live in a kind of stress that may take a toll on our health..but that's why there are treatments too...

u said u do have things which others may not have....please do count ur blessings before giving up like that....

Just becoz others get things earlier than us ...we feel we are behind the race n must rush...and we lose patience n give up easily.....Have faith ...I m 33 and if I feel I have time...I feel u surely have more time...

All of us have our stories to tell u...mine may sound a tough one to me ...but when I look around my problems are not as big....and when others can maintain a positive outlook...why should u pity urself ...one should learn to challenge the problems...what wud life be if everything was easy in life....

If u can't keep urself from thinking about ttc...involve urself other things which interest u...which can take ur mind away at least for some time....it's not easy to come out of these thoughts.. but find a way...make a plan....

I have started doing so many things now that keep me happy n away from negative thoughts when I face the failure each cycle...I know I m working on a plan....

Find ur way...u r strong

God bless n loads of wishes for ur success
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Thanks Revathy mam

I have moved out of Chennai now but I will contact and see if they can send me medicines.

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Pls try this dr Girija (Ayurveda) of Sanjeevani. she has clinic at Adyar. I have heard that she has cured for lot of such cases, since you have put ur place as Chennai pls visit her once. My daughter has PCOD and I am going to her now..
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Thanks Want my angel...Those links that you gave are wonderful..

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No Problem. Take care and browse what u are doing wrong in your food also.

There is nothing depressing about this issue. Face the issue boldly god will definitely answer your prayers. Pray pray pray always. They bring immense peace of mind.

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Thank you so much Sangeetha

I will PM you! It was really encouraging to read your note. I must say you are a brave girl.And yes as you say, we are all better off than so many people in this world..
I know its depressing but I definitely need to overcome it and move on.
Thanks again. It meant a lot!
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Yes Nihara,

Try try try till you succeed. We all have not lost anything to get depressed so much. We have legs,hands,eyes,mouth and proper brain to think. Use them in a better way.

Time will answer for all the problems. Believe believe believe

My Prayers for keep in touch about your progress

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very inspiring sangeetha.....ur words mean a lot and bring light for all those who are in ttc...The day will come wen we remember the ttc struggles holding our little ones in our hand...
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Hey ...u r also a blver of the secret.. Great..me too. I think it's a wonderful book.

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Hi Hivid,

There are a lot of ladies in this forum sufferring from infertility problems. And I am also one of them. Initially, it takes time to accept the fact that we are in the midst of a rough phase of life. But it is better if we accept the fact and start working towards improving our condition. Depression, confusion, distress, pain... all these things are not going to give anything good to us. Rather they will push us more towards our problems and problems will get aleviated.

I suggest you read the book "The Secret" by Rhonda Byrne and check out the below links.
One In Ten Million: My Fight to Get Pregnant Despite Premature Ovarian Failure
Low AMH Success Stories | Low AMH | Fertile Heart : Fertile Heart Natural Fertility Treatments for Woman

These links are mainly for people sufferring from premature ovarian failure. But reading the success stories and knowing many other things would help you get a positive perspective to life. Try to find out the root cause of your infertility and start working towards improving the health. Along with the conventional allopathy medicaiton, try Yoga, Meditation, Accupuncture, Ayurveda, Homeopathy... whichever you feel can help you.

Its all about our perspective towards our own life which determines the events of our life dear. If you think positive, things will surely turn in your favour. Whatever we get in our life, is for our good, whether we get hurt with it at some point of time. People in this forum are very helpful and supportive. You can vent out and feel better with the friends out here.

Hope you get better and start you journey to parenthood soon

Regards,
Wantmyangel
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My Story

my periods are regular till my marriage .
It starting to change its order from first month of my marriage.(and my body began to add weight )

After some time it stop; then with medication i used to get my period.

with treatment i got my period in row but not ovulating for 5 months. Then i got pregnant on last september.

I misscarry my baby at middle of my pregnancy,due to some other problems such as,low lying placenta and cervical problems.

now i again gain more weight .
now i am 70 kg with 153 cm height

My doctor advise me to lose 15 kg ,she said then only my chances to have a baby increase and she tell should be stress free

it is true that with pcos loosening the weight is difficult .But we should have it with low sugar and carbohydrate intake and exercise

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nishamm said: ↑

My Story

my periods are regular till my marriage .
It starting to change its order from first month of my marriage.(and my body began to add weight )

After some time it stop; then with medication i used to get my period.

with treatment i got my period in row but not ovulating for 5 months. Then i got pregnant on last september.

I misscarry my baby at middle of my pregnancy,due to some other problems such as,low lying placenta and cervical problems.

now i again gain more weight .
now i am 70 kg with 153 cm height

My doctor advise me to lose 15 kg ,she said then only my chances to have a baby increase and she tell should be stress free

it is true that with pcos loosening the weight is difficult .But we should have it with low sugar and carbohydrate intake and exercise
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Dear nishamm,

Weight plays a major role in getting pregnant dear ... As mentioned by your doctor try to loose weight along with TTC. Follow heathy diet and try to reduce/stop taking rice or oily foods. Do brisk walking and yoga / exercise for the first 2 weeks , after ovulation follow a healthy diet and go for walking .

Check this site
http://www.indusladies.com/forums/k...-trying-to-loose-weight-pcos.html#post2819762

Hope this helps ..

Good luck

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