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  1. indubalram

    indubalram IL Hall of Fame

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    I don’t know, he keeps irritating me ! Psst I don’t know what to do! Please help! How to calm myself?
     
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    Caide IL Hall of Fame

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    From this i don't know who is he or what is his relationship with u?

    So what I suggest is if in case he is not that close to you then ignore him. If he is so close to you try to sit and talk with him. If you have made mindset that you wanna be with him then you have to ignore and focus on how you can change /divert your mind by spending quality time for yourself or with closed ones . Get a new hobby or watch tv or do your fav things
     
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    I know it is your husband & the problem you are suffering is several decades long.

    When we are fit & healthy it is easy to be emotionally strong.
    Young body/mind with a bit of financial independence will help you to cover up your marital issues. You may have put up a big fake smile on face before the world as if everything is well. But that's not true!

    As you age old, your body & mind will become weak.
    You will soon realize the fact that you can't fake yourself to be strong all the time. When reality strikes, you will see that emptiness in your life!

    Two people can't share a life for a longer term without loving each other.

    At this age, i understand your agony about separation & all. Especially when your married DD isnt supportive of this idea.

    But, that doesnt force you to continue your marriage with him. You can at least cut lose this marital ties/bond with him & set your life free!

    You can still live under one roof as room mates!
    But live on your own, happily & independently at least in your retirement age!

    Because we just have only one life!
     
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    I try to live separately under same roof! I don’t involve in his activities! But he doesn’t leave me alone! He keeps fondling my things! Changes my things! It’s so irritating. I’m tired talking to him about this and he doesn’t listen! Aah
     
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    Ignore him for few days ma without conversation and see what he does. If he still continue to do the same do you have any paln for trip or a vacation??
     
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    Psst nothing! It’s a prison
     
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    Can you give it a try?
     
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    Can you move your things to a different room so that he doesn't mess things up on the pretext of searching his items? Try joining any classes in person if possible so that you are out of the home and you have something else to take care of. Try to go on a vacation with your friends or a mother daughter vacation. Going by your post I don't think it will be prudent to go on a trip with H. Try making it all girls trip or mother daughter trip so he can't join. Try to take a day for yourself and take advantage of the upcoming summer
     
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    It is like he is challenging me that no matter what I do u have no choice. It’s like u get pushed to a corner!
     
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    Do you like to read books?? You can spend good time at library
     

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