I recently moved to Edison. Since winter is coming up i approached community watsgroup for Playdates. (My ds 2.3yrs). No much response. So created a group for sahm with kids 2-6yr old and posted in common group. Got 25 members. They started pinging, can i drop my kid and go. I cant do it at my place, if its ok i will join. I just came from work, my son is 5yrs he wont do anything, will cook n come back. I wrote common rules/message in the group and solved it...... But got me wondering why are people trying to misuse the situation. I arrange playdates always at my place(i am totaly ok with it) I give some snacks to kids always. I keep group active and now doing Halloween get together for kids... I dont expect anyone to put toys back to place after playing. Things which irritate me are Like why should i babysit their kids?? I always give some cookies or cheetos or buiscuits. Theres a kid, he eats all n ask more. Infact moment he comes he asks can u give me cheetos or that buiscuit. (My son would want again, ending up eating snacks multiple time) Kids jump on couch n stuff, a mom let her kid jump and say yeah 1 2 3 jump.. My neighbour, she comes from work and started dropping her kid at 6.30pm saying let them play (my son 2.5y her son 5.6ys they hardly play together, he literally jumps all over house pulling all toys asking me 100 questions) Says I just came from work, my son is 5yrs he wont do anything, will cook n come back. And wont go even after my dh comes, it gets so uncomfortable serving coffee snacks to my dh while kid is there. (my dh literally locks himself in room till they all go) evening even i need to do dinner . (playdate is 5 to 6.30).. so basically 5pm to 7pm sometimes 8pm m struck with her son and my son jumping around house. Top to it, my opposite house neighbour son is 6yr and has Austism. Seeing this neighbour even she started dropping her kid at my place. Please dont judge me this kid started pinching my 2yr old. I wanted to be nice and dint say anything though her kid pinched my son twice that day. Next day he pinched my son in park too.. She said sorry i let go. It breaks my heart to see my son cry 10mins after that. This went on for couple of days, i once told her you also be here when you leave your son, he pinched my son 3 times today... Then on she was there. But still with her being available her son pinched my son.. I got so worried asked my friends and mom how to handle it gently as i dint want to hurt her feelings. Finally when there was a playdate(other kids also) she wanted to bring her kid to playdate, but others in group plainly rejected saying they have seen Austism kid they cant control pinching and hitting behaviour and also since her kid is 2yrs n learning stage her kid would repeat/learn from that kid. So after that incident, she stopped bringing her kid to play.. Like this just to have some playtime for my son with other kids i ended up getting into lot of mess like this.. My dh warned me, i am so afraid to loose friends for my son i let themmisuse. Always do playdate at my place. Give more of snacks/Choclates (Had been to other place twice no snacks theres, kids just play n leave) Let them walk to kitchen, bedroom n all. Let them jump on bed n couch.. So finally i wrote a message/Rules on watsupchat group. Not many people are coming to playdate now. (Couple of people are good they come but not regular) So was wondering Is it that difficult to get kids to play ??? Without all Bribing and taken advantage off ?