What you are thinking and feeling is not wrong at all. However if you raise the issue it would only end in fights. Husbands behave as such because they clearly believe(like mine) that what they do and say is perfectly right! It is very very disturbing that we have to keep quiet just to maintain peace in the family. Even if u argue and ask your brother to break journey at your place, he will clearly be not welcome and would be felt by him . Just for an overnight stay and for such a valid reason, him making an issue is very hard to digest. I can very well understand your situation having been through similar issues umpteen times and having to let go, for the sake of peace!. Take care, and see how best you can handle the same. It would be the best for your brother to take a direct flight with all due precautions.