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Expecting Dhs To Be The Best, Are We Looking Our (dws) End As Well?

Discussion in 'Married Life' started by RohiniVenkat, Oct 11, 2017.

  1. WiseAgnes

    WiseAgnes Gold IL'ite

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    @Nanib, I'm too lazy to reply to all your comments, but just a few because I'm nice today :)
    Feminism tells women that they own their body and it tells men that they don't own women's bodies. Therefore, it is not okay to tell women on the street "nice ass" and grope them. For some reasons, many men think they have rights to do that.
    Heck yeah, I am one of the highest-paid surgeons in my hospital
    And what exactly makes you think that women don't work that hard? Research already proved that women have to work twice as hard as men to be treated equally on the workplace
    Feminism pushes for strict punishment for rapists and helps to stop victim-blaming, which takes responsibility from the perpetrator. That does prevent rape.
    Sure. But maybe you should google how many women get killed by their spouses/boyfriends/exes and the same stats for men being killed by their partners. It IS a gender issue.

    Honestly, I feel like I am wasting my time here. You should educate yourself before asking such questions
     
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    RohiniVenkat Silver IL'ite

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    People.. The thread has been started for a different purpose and now it has redirected to somewhere else. Topic is not FEMINISM. Please pour in your thoughts about only the relationship between DH and DW, where DWs does not think about their own flaws. Not Feminism or Masculism.
     
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    venkiis Silver IL'ite

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    I am abused by my wife every day. my wife has a narcissistic personality. it has become worse now. she hits and fights for hours yelling. there is always something i did not do right or speak right. i am not typical lazy indian male. I help in home or sometimes more than her. i know how hard it is , doing dishes, cooking and then making kids sleep and then get up early and make ready for school. she always threatens to call police in usa. I am not a GC holder. i beg her to stop.

    I have posted on this forum before. i am not stupid or financially dependent on her. i know i can file for divorce and nothing can stop it. only thing i am holding this decision is because of my son, he is 5. he cries a lot and says daddy don;t leave me. my elder daughter is 11 , she understands my situation. i am just waiting for my son to turn like 7 years and he will be more mature.

    everything is not black and white . after children it is hard if you are worried that you will hurt them.

    it is easy to post in internet that men should be supported. my wife was threatening to call cops for some stupid fight in a public shop, i almost started crying. no one came to help me. if it was opposite, someone would have called the cops and i will royally screwed.
     
  4. sindmani

    sindmani Platinum IL'ite

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    I am sorry for ur situation. Can u take ur wife to counselling and see if she is depressed on any thing. IAM serious that any person irrespective if gender should be protected from being abused. Be firm and assertive and please say no to HITTING AND YELLING because ur kids are also watching and u too need a peaceful environment. It seems ur wife has to be taken immediately to a counsellor . she will definitely change with counselling.
     
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    Sunshine04 Platinum IL'ite

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    Dw do know their own flaws.. They are capable of adjusting for their husbands.
    Problems arise when
    She needs to adjust for the entire husbands family.
    When her basic needs r not fulfilled.
     
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    sindmani Platinum IL'ite

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    After reading ur other posts , I would suggest u to take ur call regarding ur future soon. hope u take the kids along with u . I would suggest u to stay strong. Best wishes.
     
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    Sunshine04 Platinum IL'ite

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    I don't think any Indian women would seek divorce just for feminism
     
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    Sunshine04 Platinum IL'ite

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    I can only be a good wife and good mom to my kid. My husband wants to be a part of his family includes in laws and his brother family.
    Adjusting all this has made me a lot stressed.,caused early greying of my pretty black hair.
     
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    If men are given above list of woman traits and ask them to decide whether they want to marry... they would still marry the woman and the baggage that comes with her. Its basically law of attraction and being blind to everything else.
    In the west, women do follow some of the above advices like being independent(bread winner), lifting weights and managing everything related to in-house and out-of-house stuff like a man.. Do you think they are living happily ever after?? NO!!
     
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    If a wife wants to be treated equal by her husband, she should demonstrate the equality in other situations with men.
    eg. How many women come forward to share equal responsibilities with their brothers? It is always a son's responsibility to take care of parents financially and/or physically.Can't women share the responsibilities equally , financial and/or physical(in case she chose to not have a job) . Sisters just take a nice dowry, while parents &/or brother spend a fortune on their wedding, but how many women take equal responsibility for their own parents??
    When it comes to taking care of parents, we always have some excuse- like I'm a woman, my DH/in-laws won't support, etc. If we can't fight for our rights then , what right we have to ask for equality to husbands in other situations. How can we hope to be taken seriously when we just want selective equality.
    How many brothers will acknowledge the inequality w.r.t sisters, who gladly point fingers at their wives ?
     
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