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Exchange of Letters- A MUST READ

Discussion in 'Snippets of Life (Non-Fiction)' started by malspie, Oct 26, 2007.

  1. malspie

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    Editor's Note: Thank you so much malspie for sharing this with us. We have decided to feature it as an article here for Parent's day. it has also been chosen as the Best of Forum. Congratulations!

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    Exchange of Letters- A MUST READ


    Dear Pop,
    I am very sorry to hear about mom's ill health. During my last visit I had asked her to get her check ups done regularly and she had nodded in affirmative and this news is real shock to me. I could sense the distress you are going through my dear Pop and I really wish I was there with you. My presence would not make any changes in the situation but would give you some support.

    I spoke to my seniors and they have refused to give me any further leave as we have a client presentation and I am representing the company. I may have to proceed to <SCRIPT><!--D(["mb","Germany\u003c/span\>\u003c/i\>\u003ci\>\u003cspan style\u003d\"font-family:Arial\"\> and am shouldering responsibilities which are not so easy to shudder. I am feeling\u003cspan\>* \u003c/span\>\nguilty about not being present with you but your effort of nurturing my future would also go in vain if I throw this opportunity in the air. So please try to understand me and forgive me for being selfish if its so. I am have already wire transferred 10,000 USD and hope it would be of great help to you. You have always been a strong man and am sure you will not succumb to the pressures. You have thought us to be optimistic and the same goes true today. Mom should be fine. Take her for the best of advice from senior doctors and get her the adequate treatment, please remember that money is and will never be an issue. I have got few telephone numbers from my friends of nurses on hire for terminally ill patients. You can reach them and hire one so that they can be of some help to you. Also look out for some help for cooking, do not torture your tired bones. \n\u003c/span\>\u003c/i\>\u003c/p\>\n\u003cp style\u003d\"text-align:justify\"\>\u003ci\>\u003cspan style\u003d\"font-family:Arial\"\>*\u003c/span\>\u003c/i\>\u003c/p\>\n\u003cp style\u003d\"text-align:justify\"\>\u003ci\>\u003cspan style\u003d\"font-family:Arial\"\>I spoke to Mansi and she too is busy with the exams of her children. Her sis-in-law is coming down from \u003c/span\>\u003c/i\>\u003ci\>\u003cspan style\u003d\"font-family:Arial\"\>\nSwitzerland\u003c/span\>\u003c/i\>\u003ci\>\u003cspan style\u003d\"font-family:Arial\"\> and she has to be a good host for some time. After the exams she has enrolled her kids for vacation studies and she has also put forth her regret of not joining you but has conveyed her earnest prayers for Mom. In fact, she was choking on the other end when she spoke to me last night. She may call you up today and please do not worry her much as she has been very sensitive right from childhood. My mobile is always ON so that you can reach me at any time. \n\u003c/span\>\u003c/i\>\u003c/p\>\n\u003cp style\u003d\"text-align:justify\"\>\u003ci\>\u003cspan style\u003d\"font-family:Arial\"\>*\u003c/span\>\u003c/i\>\u003c/p\>\n\u003cp style\u003d\"text-align:justify\"\>\u003ci\>\u003cspan style\u003d\"font-family:Arial\"\>I will try to make it after I return from ",1]);//--></SCRIPT>Germany and am shouldering responsibilities which are not so easy to shudder. I am feeling guilty about not being present with you but your effort of nurturing my future would also go in vain if I throw this opportunity in the air. So please try to understand me and forgive me for being selfish if its so. I am have already wire transferred 10,000 USD and hope it would be of great help to you. You have always been a strong man and am sure you will not succumb to the pressures. You have thought us to be optimistic and the same goes true today. Mom should be fine. Take her for the best of advice from senior doctors and get her the adequate treatment, please remember that money is and will never be an issue. I have got few telephone numbers from my friends of nurses on hire for terminally ill patients. You can reach them and hire one so that they can be of some help to you. Also look out for some help for cooking, do not torture your tired bones.

    I spoke to Mansi and she too is busy with the exams of her children. Her sis-in-law is coming down from Switzerland and she has to be a good host for some time. After the exams she has enrolled her kids for vacation studies and she has also put forth her regret of not joining you but has conveyed her earnest prayers for Mom. In fact, she was choking on the other end when she spoke to me last night. She may call you up today and please do not worry her much as she has been very sensitive right from childhood. My mobile is always ON so that you can reach me at any time.

    I will try to make it after I return from<SCRIPT><!--D(["mb","\u003c/span\>\u003c/i\>\u003ci\>\u003cspan style\u003d\"font-family:Arial\"\>Germany\u003c/span\>\u003c/i\>\u003ci\>\u003cspan style\u003d\"font-family:Arial\"\>\n, but that would definitely take a month or two. Please Pop, forgive me for being away from you. My prayers for the well being of my mom and for strength for my Pop will be there for sure. \u003c/span\>\u003c/i\>\u003c/p\>\n\u003cp style\u003d\"text-align:justify\"\>\u003ci\>\u003cspan style\u003d\"font-family:Arial\"\>*\u003c/span\>\u003c/i\>\u003c/p\>\n\u003cp style\u003d\"text-align:justify\"\>\u003ci\>\u003cspan style\u003d\"font-family:Arial\"\>Dear Son,\u003c/span\>\u003c/i\>\u003c/p\>\n\u003cp style\u003d\"text-align:justify\"\>\u003ci\>\u003cspan style\u003d\"font-family:Arial\"\>(from your father)\u003c/span\>\u003c/i\>\u003c/p\>\n\u003cp style\u003d\"text-align:justify\"\>\u003ci\>\u003cspan style\u003d\"font-family:Arial\"\>I received your good wishes and prayers and was happy to know about your new assignment. I said a small prayer to the lord to give you success in all that you endeavor. I tried calling you up many times but your phone was switched off, I suppose, or may be you were traveling and were &quot;out of range&quot;. I also tried Mansi and she too was not reachable. I decided to cremate your mother quietly and would love to tell you she passed away peacefully. She always had a habit of writing letters to her children. During her last days, she was unable to write to her kids so she dictated it to me feebly and I have jotted down her words. If you have time please read hereon:\n\u003c/span\>\u003c/i\>\u003c/p\>\n\u003cp style\u003d\"text-align:justify\"\>\u003ci\>\u003cspan style\u003d\"font-family:Arial\"\>*\u003c/span\>\u003c/i\>\u003c/p\>\n\u003cp style\u003d\"text-align:justify\"\>\u003ci\>\u003cspan style\u003d\"font-family:Arial\"\>Dear Son,\u003c/span\>\u003c/i\>\u003c/p\>\n\u003cp style\u003d\"text-align:justify\"\>\u003ci\>\u003cspan style\u003d\"font-family:Arial\"\>(from your mother)\u003c/span\>\u003c/i\>\u003c/p\>\n\u003cp style\u003d\"text-align:justify\"\>\u003ci\>\u003cspan style\u003d\"font-family:Arial\"\>*\u003c/span\>\u003c/i\>\u003c/p\>\n\u003cp style\u003d\"text-align:justify\"\>\u003ci\>\u003cspan style\u003d\"font-family:Arial\"\>I understand that you were always ambitious in life and when I came to know about your new venture, my feeble hands trembled but surely raised for a prayer for the well being of my two beautiful kids. Mansi's kids exams will go well and they will pass with flying colours. You too would grab the promotion and make your parents proud my son. I have no regrets of you not coming down, in fact proud of having such wonderful children to whom duty stands first. May be this time, it would be a bit late as I may not be able to meet you again. God gave me the opportunity to carry you both in my womb, go through the wonderful feeling of motherhood and raise you both as such responsible kids. I hope you have carried your leather jacket with you my dear on your trip to \n",1]);//--></SCRIPT> Germany , but that would definitely take a month or two. Please Pop, forgive me for being away from you. My prayers for the well being of my mom and for strength for my Pop will be there for sure.

    Dear Son,
    (from your father)
    I received your good wishes and prayers and was happy to know about your new assignment. I said a small prayer to the lord to give you success in all that you endeavor. I tried calling you up many times but your phone was switched off, I suppose, or may be you were traveling and were "out of range". I also tried Mansi and she too was not reachable. I decided to cremate your mother quietly and would love to tell you she passed away peacefully. She always had a habit of writing letters to her children. During her last days, she was unable to write to her kids so she dictated it to me feebly and I have jotted down her words. If you have time please read hereon:

    Dear Son,
    (from your mother)

    I understand that you were always ambitious in life and when I came to know about your new venture, my feeble hands trembled but surely raised for a prayer for the well being of my two beautiful kids. Mansi's kids exams will go well and they will pass with flying colours. You too would grab the promotion and make your parents proud my son. I have no regrets of you not coming down, in fact proud of having such wonderful children to whom duty stands first. May be this time, it would be a bit late as I may not be able to meet you again. God gave me the opportunity to carry you both in my womb, go through the wonderful feeling of motherhood and raise you both as such responsible kids. I hope you have carried your leather jacket with you my dear on your trip to<SCRIPT><!--D(["mb","\u003c/span\>\u003c/i\>\u003ci\>\u003cspan style\u003d\"font-family:Arial\"\>Germany\u003c/span\>\u003c/i\>\u003ci\>\u003cspan style\u003d\"font-family:Arial\"\>. The money that you have been sending for us is intact in the account as we were never waiting for it. The calls that were made to you were always to hear your voice and not ask for help. I have knitted a lovely sweater for you, do not forget to ask your Pop for it. I have made your favorite pickle; in case, you happen to fly down, do not forget to carry it. Mansi wanted an Ayurvedic medicine for indigestion. I had asked my friend to call in for it. She had got it for me a couple of weeks ago. Later, I was admitted in the hospital, but your dad is aware, please do not forget to collect it from him. Also the CD of your last visit to us is ready and we have been watching it whenever we miss you and Mansi. I had asked your dad to write the CD so that both of you too can add it to your memory shelf. I thank God for this life and am happy to move to the next stage. Your Pop will be lonely and that's what is worrying me now. I had called for an admission form from the nearest &quot;Old Age Home&quot; so that he can admit himself there and have friends to spend rest of his life. \n\u003c/span\>\u003c/i\>\u003c/p\>\n\u003cp style\u003d\"text-align:justify\"\>\u003ci\>\u003cspan style\u003d\"font-family:Arial\"\>*\u003c/span\>\u003c/i\>\u003c/p\>\n\u003cp style\u003d\"text-align:justify\"\>\u003ci\>\u003cspan style\u003d\"font-family:Arial\"\>Thank you kids for being so wonderful. \u003c/span\>\u003c/i\>\u003c/p\>\n\u003cp style\u003d\"text-align:justify\"\>\u003ci\>\u003cspan style\u003d\"font-family:Arial\"\>Yours Ever Loving\u003c/span\>\u003c/i\>\u003c/p\>\n\u003cp style\u003d\"text-align:justify\"\>\u003ci\>\u003cspan style\u003d\"font-family:Arial\"\>Mom. \u003c/span\>\u003c/i\>\u003c/p\>\n\u003cp\>\u003cb\>\u003ci\>\u003cspan style\u003d\"font-size:18pt;font-family:Arial\"\>*\u003c/span\>\u003c/i\>\u003c/b\>\u003c/p\>\n\u003cp\>\u003c/p\>\n",0]);//--></SCRIPT> Germany. The money that you have been sending for us is intact in the account as we were never waiting for it. The calls that were made to you were always to hear your voice and not ask for help. I have knitted a lovely sweater for you, do not forget to ask your Pop for it. I have made your favorite pickle; in case, you happen to fly down, do not forget to carry it. Mansi wanted an Ayurvedic medicine for indigestion. I had asked my friend to call in for it. She had got it for me a couple of weeks ago. Later, I was admitted in the hospital, but your dad is aware, please do not forget to collect it from him. Also the CD of your last visit to us is ready and we have been watching it whenever we miss you and Mansi. I had asked your dad to write the CD so that both of you too can add it to your memory shelf. I thank God for this life and am happy to move to the next stage. Your Pop will be lonely and that's what is worrying me now. I had called for an admission form from the nearest "Old Age Home" so that he can admit himself there and have friends to spend rest of his life.

    Thank you kids for being so wonderful.

    Yours Ever Loving

    Mom.
     
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  2. Shanvy

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    hi mals,

    Welcome back yaar...par yeh kyaa vapas atey hi rula diya....

    IT is really very sickening(i will not say touching...) to read these letters....of what kids are becoming.... Why dont they realise, a worser scene may be waiting for them when their turn comes...

    The mom would have been more happy if the DIL, had brought the GD during her last days.....

    I can go on and on...but i don't want to write on this topic....
     
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    Dear Applepie,
    Welcome back.
    Your post is heart-rending, but a true reflection of today's world.
    I cannot help, recollecting Gibran's words

    Your children are not your children.
    They are the sons and daughters of Life's longing for itself.
    They come through you but not from you,
    And though they are with you, yet they belong not to you.

    This is the harsh truth, with due respect to my own children !

    In tamil, there is a saying

    Thennaiyai vaithal ilaneeru
    Pillayai pethal kanneru

    It cannot be more true, though bitter.

    Love,
    Chits.
     
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    hi chithmam,

    I liked the Gibran quotes...how apt...and true...if only all of us understand and follow....
     
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    Dear Mals,

    Welcome back.... That is a very very touching reply....

    The letters depict the current trend running among the kids and the parents.... But I would like to point out there are exceptions to that...

    This is a very sensitive issue for me personally,... So... leaving it as it is.... This gives me my flash back....

    Nice to see a different relationships......
     
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    Dear Chitvish,

    With all due respects.... I strongly disagree with you.... Though I also sing that song, freely...
     
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    Dear Veda,
    You have every right to disagree with me !
    You are much younger to me & I have seen more of life !
    It has happened to my own relatives, sadly.
    Love,
    Chithra.



     
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    Hi chithmam,

    sorry to butt in...but veda...it is the general scenario..with few exceptions...
     
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    Dear Chitvish,

    I fully agree with you that and I will never dispute your experience... Sorry, if I have said something wrong...

    When I read those letters, I was forced to go back a few pages in my life book... It had touched some sensitive portion of my life... and the decisions taken... Of course possitive... NO REGRETS.... I am happy, we were not like this family....

    Like Shan said, this is the general trend and there are few exceptions....
     
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    Hi Mals,

    We can see this in every home these days.

    I think it has no solution.Only time should show the direction for this.

    Then why are so many posts in the thread problems with in laws though they are staying toghter.????????????


    For all these problems people should adjust n compramise for which noboday is ready..
     

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