Let me start by saying I have a good marriage. There are still times when I feel like he doesn't care as much as I do. Ex: 1) When he is sick, I try to guess what he needs and ask him if he wants xyz and bring it to him.When I am sick he expects me to tell him what I want. Once he even asked, if I wanted right away or if he can go later... 2) I feel like I try to plan most things keeping his likes and dislikes in mind. But he plans things keeping himself in mind. 3) I try to buy gifts that he would enjoy. He buys gifts ( not just for me) that he likes!!!!! maybe they are not that big of a deal in the grand scheme of things but some days it just adds up. I was once so hurt, I tried to be like him. I dint like it at all..... Its just not who I am. It made me even more miserable and angry. I dont know if I am expecting too much? When we have had this discussion , he said I am expecting him to behave like I would - which is not fair. Does anyone else feel this way?