Ethics,etiquette And Encroachment

sln · Sep 6, 2024

ETHICS,ETIQUETTE AND ENCROACHMENT.
This article has been made short as It is not etiquette to make it lengthy and encroach on your precious time . Ethics is what some one does when others are not watching. The best example is not collecting the dog poop when some one is not watching. When guests stay they help themselves to your toiletary items. When you are invited for a get together help yourself to your favourite item more than your fair share. One colleague was caught and charged for taking away the night gown given for his use in the hotel . In the corporate world,many get their suits dry cleaned at companys expense.This is what is known as Expense statement aristocracy. We can give hundreds of examples of unethical behaviour committed knowingly or unknowingly but let us not forget that somebody is watching.
Etiquette is defined as polite and correct behaviour. The emphasis is on “correct” more than polite. Banging the door when you come out of some ones room. Speaking loudly when someone else is the phone. Browsing messages when some one is talking to you. usurping the entire common arm of the seat while flying Keeping your car in the garage and hitching a ride in your neighbours car. Taking an unusually long time to finish your meal when others have finished and are waiting for you to get up and.They are called ruminating cows. The neighbour leaves her house key with you while travelling and does not thank you for safe keeping while taking back the keys.
Encroachment is understood as an unnecessary intrusion into some ones territory. The foremost thing that comes into your mind is spreading your things in the common area/corridor in an apartment complex. Parking your car on anothers parking area when he is away. Giving unsolicited advice in bringing up grand children.You have had your day when you brought up your children and why don’t you give them space to handle their children in the changing times. The most common encroachment is your construction in public area,storm water drains ,lake etc. The worst encroachers are men who enter a womans kitchen try to tidy up.Quite often it is not out of concern to help but to tell the woman how to run the kitchen.Remember that the woman does not interfere with your bathroom or the way you keep documents.
The traits discussed indicate our pedigree.Let us teach our children finer aspects of life so as to define the culture of the country,

Thyagarajan · Sep 7, 2024

I enjoyed reading the distinction between ethics and etiquette.
I hv seen same person who speak loudly all the time speak gently while consulting a doctor.
In undivided India Brahmin clerks as a mark of respect were quickly put on their turbans on their bald head while English boss enters the office and British officer would return the wish by removing his hat and doff it on his forehead.
What is considered good etiquette in one nation may mean exactly the opposite or even turn vulgar.

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culture of the country
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sln · Sep 7, 2024

Thyagarajan said: ↑

I enjoyed reading the distinction between ethics and etiquette.
I hv seen same person who speak loudly all the time speak gently while consulting a doctor.
In undivided India Brahmin clerks as a mark of respect were quickly put on their turbans on their bald head while English boss enters the office and British officer would return the wish by removing his hat and doff it on his forehead.
What is considered good etiquette in one nation may mean exactly the opposite or even turn vulgar.
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Of late generally etiquette is on the back burner with teen agers.They sprawl themselves on the sofa while watching common programme on TV.The latest trend is browsing while eating.Parents do not correct them.My father enforced that no one talked while eating.Science now says that it leads to gas formation.We seniors also keep quiet when etiquette is flouted and thereby buy peace.
Regards

Viswamitra · Sep 7, 2024

Dear SLN Sir,

Excellent real life examples for ethics and etiquettes. It is really who we are when no one else is watching. Leaving the room as closely as we found them is another example. When I taught morals to teenagers, I used to wait until they set the chairs back into original positions and remove all scattered papers on the desk. These habits help them to be a better being later.

Many people forget that what we encourage in our thoughts become a habit later. Some thing, their thoughts are exclusively known to them only but sooner or later, these thoughts show up in real life action. That is why discipline in thoughts, words, and deeds are important.

In our house, only day I am allowed to cook is on Sunday and the rest of the day, I need to stay clear of the kitchen. Some festival days, I am allowed to wash dishes. Only thing I am allowed everyday is to cut vegetables.

sln · Sep 7, 2024

Viswamitra said: ↑

Dear SLN Sir,

Excellent real life examples for ethics and etiquettes. It is really who we are when no one else is watching. Leaving the room as closely as we found them is another example. When I taught morals to teenagers, I used to wait until they set the chairs back into original positions and remove all scattered papers on the desk. These habits help them to be a better being later.

Many people forget that what we encourage in our thoughts become a habit later. Some thing, their thoughts are exclusively known to them only but sooner or later, these thoughts show up in real life action. That is why discipline in thoughts, words, and deeds are important.

In our house, only day I am allowed to cook is on Sunday and the rest of the day, I need to stay clear of the kitchen. Some festival days, I am allowed to wash dishes. Only thing I am allowed everyday is to cut vegetables.
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Dear Viswa,
Ultimately it is the thought which decides our actions. When our parents were straightforward in correcting our behaviour,today parents are reluctant to correct them either due to indulgence or fear of driving them into bad company.
A telecom chap,incidentally a youngster had to give the connection.When i chided him for the delay on whats up his reply was " Hi-chill".Immediately I cancelled my request for connection.
Seniors help each other in the kitchen and it is wonderful to share the work.After all the woman would also like to call it a day if given a choice.What I call intrusion is the male gets into the female domain just to prove a point.
One thing is clear ie with increasing money power, Etiquette has gone with the wind.
Regards-SLN