Equitable, Least Partiality, Parenting

Well, I have two kids of different genders and ages.

The two reasons I will NEVER give for anything contentious:
1. Because you are a GIRL (BOY).
2. Because you are ELDER (YOUNGER).

This is all that I do to MINIMIZE (cannot truly say ELIMINATE) partiality between siblings. And yes, every parent should consciously strive towards it constantly.

 

1. I think when buying gifts, or gadgets, games, dresses even chocolates and ice creams , everything buy for both (all children). first telling what is allowed budget for that holiday And taking their fav item into consideration. Sharing should be encouraged. U buy that, I will buy this we can share, as a group all sit and discuss about their taste and gifts, they will not feel what I want is not cared by parents.

mostly kids feel bad in this "buying new stuff "area.

2.while disciplining kids one might be sensitive, so he or she may feel too bad when u punish both kids. Patiently explain later for both that what they did is not right. When I was young my sis and bro were not giving me water colors, geometry box , I used to cry, parents used tell share it. I ended up crying .

 

I have two children, and I try my level best to avoid/minimize partiality towards my children constantly.

You all are very much familiar with the below image, which beautifully tells that "Equality doesn't mean justice".
I consciously practice it at home.

I have 2 kids of both gender. Both are under the age of 5 with completely different qualities.

I just don't treat them equal in all the aspects. For ex, my elder son doesn't like chocolates, but loves to play games in my mobile a lot.
Younger one really likes candies, but not that interested in mobile games. Further, she is yet to learn about gadgets.
Now it doesn't make any sense to me to give 2 bars of candies, and 2hrs of mobile time for both to ensure equality.
Rather, I would please the younger one with an additional candy (within limits) and the elder one with an additional hr of mobile time.
At the end, both are happy and it makes justice for both.

Here, I didn't give them anything equal. But it doesn't mean I am partial towards my kids.

I, as a parent ensure my children gets the maximum and work towards it. But they as children might perceive this as partiality; hence have some misunderstanding while growing up.

It is my duty, as a parent to clear their misunderstanding by thoroughly understanding them.
Communication helps. Because, I repeatedly speak to my children mentioning why I had done this, and get their feedback in any forms. (Either a kiss, a naughty prank or whatever). I move on from there only