Emotional Intelligence with kids

I have 3 kids of my own and I like to be with so many kids, tochat with them to know their views and always I try to explore their world andto know what is going on in their heads and in their world and how theyperceive these things. How they are building their own perspectives on issuesand events surrounding to them. Recently I introduced word Emotions and being emotional tomy kids. And made them understand what it is all about. Then on some particularbehavior of my elder son age 10, I remained very calm and patient and informedhim that he is being emotionally hijacked and the moment I informed him he controlledhis behavior and became normal. Other occasion my second son age 6 was cryingand was being adamant on some electronics, I made him aware that he isemotionally blackmailing me by crying so he started laughing and one time hewas very angry on his brother and was about to hit him, I pushed him to countnumbers till 10 and I counted with him and he became normal and did not hit hisbrother and due to his focus shifted to counting he forgot that he was about tohit his brother. Then I explained to them how to manage their anger emotion.On another occasion, my 3 year old daughter was asking forelectronic gadget to play, I refused to give. So she used her tool of crying toget it from me but since I was firm, she showed more strong tantrums but then Imentioned in front of other kids that she is using emotional blackmailing. Shedid not know what was it but with my smile she understood it is something funnyso she started laughing also and she forgot her tantrum and gadget.Now while my kids are hearing this emotional word quite often fromme they are able to understand behavior of others also. My elder son startedobserving his friends behavior and started understanding their behavior. Infact we are using codes in home now – like EB for emotional blackmailing, EHfor emotionally hijacked, ES for emotionally smart, EI for emotionallyIntelligent, EF for emotionally fool, EU for emotional understanding and so on.The way we name the behavior of child in front of group they have startedunderstanding behaviors. I trust this is a good start in developing emotionallybalanced individual and helping them to manage their emotions. J

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