Emotional Abuse In Marriage

BB, if you really serious about a divorce, and I somehow don't think you are 100% for it right now .. seems like you want to draw attention to the abuse and fix things. Either way, if you are really serious about a divorce, you need to focus completely on what is good for you and your child. Even though he is a good father, you have to not waste any energies thinking about him and his family. Divorce brings out the ugliest side in people. You don't have to stoop to his/their level, but you have to be very very selfish and focussed in your thinking. That thinking will reflect in what you say to family and other people who will be involved.

Who gives a damn about your in-laws and it is a foreign country and all that. If you are contemplating divorce, you have to change your attitude a little towards 'hard as nails'. You are working, fairly new in job, have a little child. That itself makes for a hectic life. Add to it your marriage woes. So, don't take on more burden worrying about your in-laws comfort.

Yes. You got this right. You have to watch what you say. Think it over, and rehearse what you will say. Any ambivalence you show, any empathy, or if you say anything that excuses your husband's behavior, the other side will pounce on it.

Initiating a divorce is like crossing the intersection on a yellow. You decide to do it, you have to keep up the speed. Second-guessing can be harmful. This does not mean you become completely opposed to a reconciliation. Rather, remain firm during any talks that will place.

Don't worry about his family. Your family has had enough time to get used to the idea. And no, in a case like yours, where parents have/had say in the marriage, it is better they get involved.

It is your house too. Get your father to stay with you, whenever you want or need. No need to worry that it will be awkward with his parents around. And, beyond the basic making sure they have food to eat, no need to pretend and do the usual seva.

Don't ever say to anybody except your parents maybe, that the emotional abuse was worse than the physical.

You might have already read about the CA domestic abuse case of Abhishek Gattani: Despite chilling audio of wife battery, Cuberon CEO gets away with a month’s jail The woman tried to protect the man, and now she has a weak case.

All is fair now. At a suitable time, you could casually bring up this case. See, how husband reacts.

It is good you did not call 911. Wouldn't help in your case to do so unless it was a life-threatening situation. You need to have some things sorted out before involving external people and authorities.